You are not fooling anyone. if you have a picture of a buff model as your photo then i will not message you back
So you're advocating having at least 2 profiles then?
1 with a buff fake picture, and 1 with some slob picture?
You are kind of implying that you guarantee you will respond to anyone that doesn't have a buff model picture on their profile.
. This also shows me that you did not read my profile to see what type of men I like
No one cares what type of men you like except you.
Putting it in your profile is not going to do anything except drive away the type of guy you actually like.
When you put that in your profile, about the type of person you "like" then what you are saying is "I have absolutely no desire to look at profiles, or look for the type of guy I like. I just want to sit back and have that guy come get me. Plus you have to determine if I'd like you or want to talk to you, and you have to do that how I would do it." You are expecting your profile, and other people, to do all the work for you.
No guys like princess attitudes like that.
Except the ones that will treat you like a princess solely in exchange for you giving them what they want. And usually first.
And they are going to write to you no matter what you put in your profile just to see if negotiation is possible and worth it.
You are just a person hiding behind a persona
That's everyone here.
Your picture and profile make up an avatar.
That's your online persona.
You don't get out from behind your persona until you actually start dating and spending time face to face with people where you are unable to have complete control over the information they get from you.
Even if you are not very confidant put your real photo
Until you meet someone you can never know if they are really using their "real" photo.
Except when you fall into a false sense of security.
So at best all you are saying is "use what I would consider a more realistic fake photo to fool me. Not some hot guy."
be yourself, and you will go far.
In my experience nearly 100% of the time there is an unsaid "only if yourself is someone that fulfills what I think you should be, then I will judge you 'good' and think you will go far."
What if being "himself" is adopting a "persona" in order to protect himself, because he's insecure about himself?
You still think he will "go far?" If you realized that's "really" who he is would you still date him?
I doubt it.
Edited by
ciretom
on Sun 09/21/14 02:51 PM