I have this issue. I am an active person, but I am a bigger person. I have medical issues that have caused me to gain weight and make it extremely hard to lose it, so, since I'm not skinny, I'm in the unwanted section of things....
You know, I think some people have issues with what they think they see. I looked at your profile pictures. If that's the way you look right now, I'm sorry, I don't see where the problem is. You're not hard to look at, at all. Now, I can understand, even though I'm a big guy myself, where a lot of men will get turned off with women so big that their belly hangs down between their legs when they sit down. They have enough skin on them for three other women. I can kinda see that.
But you are nowhere close to that. You may have some extra weight on you. But, at this point, I think you look pretty good. Maybe you should be like me so to speak. I look for women to date that, well, they aren't sick. But they have to take medication. Maybe they have a problem like I do. The med makes them gain weight.
Someone like that is more apt to understand what folks like you and I are going through. It's a fight to keep the weight down and take the meds. Someone who is going through it is more apt to hang it with you than let's say, A gym rat.