Topic: Talking to your ex .. weirdly good
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Mon 04/20/15 02:59 PM

After rehearsals with the band, I been talking with my ex for an hour .. and dang, was that good! No lovy feelings, nothing sexual ... but just so good to talk to someone who understands me. And it makes me wonder why I never seem to be able to even get a date that is remotely interesting...
Ex is artistic (drummer, and a bloody good one at that), I am artistic... so he gets my drives, needs, feelings and emotions as an artist and I his, because they're basically the same for any artist.
He's not into the lovy dovey romance BS, neither am I, we had a good laugh about 50 Shades, talked about the novel I'm writing and so on and so forth.

And don't get me wrong, I don't love him, I don't want him either, the grief I went through with that man! But there's the bits that did work out, and it is just such an enormous relief to talk to someone who's like-minded!
Maybe I should find myself an artists dating-site. And not sure I need a fellow-artist for a partner, but at the very least someone who understands and appreciates the mindset of an artist. And has a kinky streak as well :angel:

What I usually come across is boring f@rts with a 9 to 5 job & slouching-on-the-settee-at-night type. I need someone that stimulates my brain ... if he doesn't, I'm bound to get bored within 2 months..
And the ones that match intellectually are either too soft, I'll walk all over them, or are the 'business guy' type with office jobs. Not my kind of intelligent or man, doesn't ring my bell.

But a weird experience ... Anyone else had similar experiences with his/her ex? That it just feels good to talk to him / her on a level you haven't experienced with anyone else (yet), without any feelings of wanting them back?
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IamwhoIam1

Mon 04/20/15 03:08 PM

Funny that you made this post because my ex-BF called me out of the blue last week. He hadn't contacted me in years. Got rid of the abusive ###$&&. He called me both on my cell and landline and left me a hang up message on both. scared No way he is getting a call back. mad
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Blah

Mon 04/20/15 03:11 PM

I remain friends with most of my exes.


Some, not so much. :laughing:
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whatssuup

Mon 04/20/15 03:13 PM



Talking to the ex......
My daddy always said if you don't have anything good to say
Don't say anything at all
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zzzippy56

Mon 04/20/15 03:13 PM

I have talked to my ex not long ago.... We have kids and grandkids together....... But no, never again 35 years was enoughslaphead ... I like my single life..... It is giving me time to find a really healthy lifestyle that with its help ill beat this cancer.... Stay strong.... They are an ex for a reason....frustrated nowayslaphead
Edited by zzzippy56 on Mon 04/20/15 03:18 PM
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messi_is_a_tim_1888

Mon 04/20/15 03:17 PM

If I saw my oldest boys mum in the street, I would just blank her, like she did to my son for years! No birthday card, no Xmas present, nothing! She never even came to watch her grandson being born last year! I talk to some of my exes, but she's a wrong un' 100%!!
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 04/20/15 03:24 PM


Funny that you made this post because my ex-BF called me out of the blue last week. He hadn't contacted me in years. Got rid of the abusive ###$&&. He called me both on my cell and landline and left me a hang up message on both. scared No way he is getting a call back. mad

My ex was abusive as well :/
But someone I managed to forgive him and whenever we see each other we can still have a normal conversation, even have a good laugh. We don't often see each other, no need, nor desire. Just that he's the drummer of the band, so every year leading up to King's day I see him during rehearsals. The gig is next week, so then I won't see him for another year.

I've just never met someone (yet) that I can talk to about almost anything like I can with my ex, varying from quantum physics to artistic things to kinky stuff to the bigger picture of what's going on in the world etc. And p|$$ ourselves laughing.
And I seriously don't want him, just wished with all my heart I'd meet someone that I can have such a click with as well, artistically, intellectually, sense humour etc.
Appears to be bluddy difficult..
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IamwhoIam1

Mon 04/20/15 03:29 PM

You're too smart and that is why you suffer. Shortage of single men who are on the same level. It's tough.
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TMommy

Mon 04/20/15 03:30 PM

I talk to my ex husband quite often about our son and how he is doing in school
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 04/20/15 03:32 PM


You're too smart and that is why you suffer. Shortage of single men who are on the same level. It's tough.

Yes, you're right ...
Spose it sounds familiar?
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IamwhoIam1

Mon 04/20/15 03:34 PM

Need you ask, woman? Need you ask? smokin
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 04/20/15 03:42 PM


Need you ask, woman? Need you ask? smokin

Lol...
Well, let's just keep the faith, and our fingers crossed, that the right guy for us is out there! Two attractive, wise and intelligent men, healthy sex-drive and strong personality (otherwise we'd just trample them with our high heels, lol), one for you and one for me :tongue:
I'll gladly drink to that!
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IamwhoIam1

Mon 04/20/15 04:05 PM

Amen, babe!!! drinker
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IamwhoIam1

Mon 04/20/15 04:05 PM

^ no pun meant there
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tman_62

Mon 04/20/15 04:24 PM

I can relate. I was married for 8 years. We had great times and many memories. It was a very tough break up. Took me 3 years to get over her completely. Pure heartbreak for me. She contacts me once in a while and we get caught up. It's a different dynamic between us now. It's like meeting an old friend and going your own way after.
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Quintessentially

Mon 04/20/15 04:25 PM

Make that three please but I'll have to trample with my boots because I don't wear heels (unless its a very special occasion)
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 04/20/15 05:08 PM


I can relate. I was married for 8 years. We had great times and many memories. It was a very tough break up. Took me 3 years to get over her completely. Pure heartbreak for me. She contacts me once in a while and we get caught up. It's a different dynamic between us now. It's like meeting an old friend and going your own way after.

Sounds nice :) And yes, it's a different vibe.
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 04/20/15 05:10 PM


Make that three please but I'll have to trample with my boots because I don't wear heels (unless its a very special occasion)

Haha, we'll make it three...
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JOHNN111

Mon 04/20/15 06:17 PM

For the 3 short years that I knew her, we spent 5 hrs a week together, not a romance, but a connection beyond any friendships i've ever had, it was one of a kind. She knew and got me, I knew her, simple as that.

I miss my friend terribly, she passed last year around this time, in 3 months.

Those are the memories we're supposed to keep while we chase new ones with new people, it takes time, it's rough. If I felt anything like that with an ex, i'd be calling them to hang out for sure. gl flowerforyou

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tealbreeze

Mon 04/20/15 06:21 PM

we'll see how it goes in the next week. 1st ex husband is living with my daughter evidently. ohwell