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shanefromnola

Tue 05/26/15 01:24 PM

My definition is someone who's main priority isn't conforming to others expectations, be it other people or society. I want someone who doesn't always bow down to expectations simply because everyone else does it. Basically someone who lives in the moment, who doesn't cling to the past and worry about the future. This is how life should be lived imo. Someone who values life over things.
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shanefromnola

Tue 05/26/15 01:24 PM

My definition is someone who's main priority isn't conforming to others expectations, be it other people or society. I want someone who doesn't always bow down to expectations simply because everyone else does it. Basically someone who lives in the moment, who doesn't cling to the past and worry about the future. This is how life should be lived imo. Someone who values life over things.
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joethebricky

Tue 05/26/15 01:25 PM

I think here in the UK most, and I say most, people would associate being down to earth as someone friendly and approachable.

Open minded, again most, would say this is someone who's willing to listen to someone Else's ideas and more than likely this open mindedness here means in a sexual way.

I'm neither, I suppose I could put in my profile that I'm an egotistical, autocratic, self centered tosser, but my Mum loves me and that's all that matters.
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PacificStar48

Tue 05/26/15 01:48 PM


I read the following phrases often but have no idea what the writer means by them. So, what exactly is YOUR definition of "down to earth" and "open minded"?

When I read "open minded" for example, it translates to "swinging" or that one of the people in that relationship is going to wind up dressed in head to toe leather!

Explain yourself!


Well both of these phrases are kind of subjective to the speaker in any given situation and that is no different in "on-line" speak either.

More often than not when I see them in a profile I tend to cringe a little on the "open-minded " one because it usually means the profile is all or at least in part balogne; usually where it comes to actually being single. Often open minded means and alternate lifestyle from nudeism to swingers or they are really looking for a Friends With Benefits arrangement but don't have the kahones to say so. If they are all eager beaver to give a email, cam-site, or phone number I just figure they are looking to sex talk or think it will be funny to send gross pictures. Scammers use this phrase if they are hoping you will continue contact if they admit they are out of country. Not as often but I do see it is someone is , or at least was, involved in drugs, alcohol, or jail.

Sometimes I hear the "down to earth" phrase related to past drug or alcohol history as if "I am this good looking, employed, and single and you expected perfection?" But most of the time "down to earth" means they will go out occasionally but eventually dating means coming over to your house for beer, TV, and sex on the weekends their Mom/EX has the kids. If they start out telling you they have kids and marriage is on the table it probably means they are looking for you to move in and be a free nanny/house keeper at least a couple years until they are out of debt paying for the divorce. Too often it means they are tired of sleeping on their Mom's couch and they want to shack up in your place.

My experience dating is most guys who have not been online a long time and haven't just lifted those two phrases from a profile format don't use either phrase that much. They just are not normal "Man speak" if that makes any sense.










Edited by PacificStar48 on Tue 05/26/15 01:54 PM
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regularfeller

Tue 05/26/15 02:19 PM



Okay, well how many of you women would consider yourselves free spirits? I get tired of seeing open minded and down to earth
I know I am... I will say until I retire in another month I am a bit chained down to my job...I know my heart and soul is freespirited I walk to my own drum beat..

what is your definition of "Free Spirited"?


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regularfeller

Tue 05/26/15 02:21 PM


I think here in the UK most, and I say most, people would associate being down to earth as someone friendly and approachable.

Open minded, again most, would say this is someone who's willing to listen to someone Else's ideas and more than likely this open mindedness here means in a sexual way.

I'm neither, I suppose I could put in my profile that I'm an egotistical, autocratic, self centered tosser, but my Mum loves me and that's all that matters.


:laughing: tosser!

At least you can count on good ol mom!
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joethebricky

Tue 05/26/15 02:23 PM



I think here in the UK most, and I say most, people would associate being down to earth as someone friendly and approachable.

Open minded, again most, would say this is someone who's willing to listen to someone Else's ideas and more than likely this open mindedness here means in a sexual way.

I'm neither, I suppose I could put in my profile that I'm an egotistical, autocratic, self centered tosser, but my Mum loves me and that's all that matters.


:laughing: tosser!

At least you can count on good ol mom!

laugh ohwell
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ciretom

Tue 05/26/15 07:42 PM

I've always found the terms to be highly subjective.
So as far as online dating is concerned I don't have my own definitions but I like to learn those of others.

So, what exactly is YOUR definition of "down to earth"

Some of the definitions of down to earth I run into when trolling profiles and having talked to people are:

- I'm not high maintenance.

- my standards aren't that high, a lot of people have complained about others online only wanting brad pitt or angelina jolie. I have my standards, but I'm not like "those" people. Yeah I reject a lot to every person that contacts me for some reason. But it's not my fault. I'm down to earth. Since I said it on my profile then people that email/call me back when I reject them are wrong when they say anything that might prove I'm not.

- I have no desire to fill out a profile except in vague terms that really have no meaning other than adding positive associations.
I like walks on the beach, laughing, and puppies too.
I have to put something here or it won't let me move on to looking at the pictures and getting mail.
I am only here for others to present themselves to me so I can pick and choose. It's not a two way street. It's about me. I have no intention of putting any of my true personality in my profile.
I might miss out on mr or mrs right if I commit to a personality.
I have to be as attractive to as many people as possible.

- I read somewhere that men/women like a woman/man who is down to earth.
And I've decided that I am down to earth.
I have no idea what it means.
I just know I will be seen as more attractive if I am down to earth.
And now I truly believe I am down to earth.
I'm also funny, smart, ambitious, romantic, independent, attractive, kids are my world, I can dress up or down to go out or stay in, love cuddling, and giving back rubs.
Really, I do nothing but watch netflix and masturbate.
But I want to be those other things.
And now that my profile says those things, then I am those things.

- I hate talking about myself because really I don't want to face myself or who I really am. To tell you the truth, and I never will, I behave badly. I also put relationship on my profile when really I've been using online dating sites for 7+ years and it seems no relationship has lasted more than a handful of months, and 90% of "relationships" seem to magically end right after I sleep with someone.
So...I'm just going to put on my profile that which I read in a lot of other peoples profiles, like being down to earth.

- Simple. Not wanting anything complicated or dramatic or over thought.

- I will not think about you when we aren't talking to each other. I have other stuff to do and I focus on things as they come.

- don't expect me to dress up or put much effort into dating. I will show up in sweats or shorts or whatever I feel like. Don't expect makeup or an ironed shirt or clean.

what exactly is YOUR definition of "open minded"?

The meanings I've run into are:
- I just watched/read 50 shades of grey and now I am shopping for a guy like that.
- I want to set up a rape fantasy.

- I have a complicated life. I have 5 kids from 4 different guys, 3 of which live with me. 3 of the guys that knocked me up live with me. Plus the kids. Complicated.

- I'm pregnant.
- I'm handicapped.
- I am bisexul.
- I am heavy into the LGBT lifestyle.
- I am heavy into the S&M lifestyle.
- I've got a LOT of baggage.
- I have a fwb and/or sugardaddy and I have no desire to lose either.
- I am married.
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regularfeller

Tue 05/26/15 08:14 PM


I've always found the terms to be highly subjective.
So as far as online dating is concerned I don't have my own definitions but I like to learn those of others.

So, what exactly is YOUR definition of "down to earth"

Some of the definitions of down to earth I run into when trolling profiles and having talked to people are:

- I'm not high maintenance.

- my standards aren't that high, a lot of people have complained about others online only wanting brad pitt or angelina jolie. I have my standards, but I'm not like "those" people. Yeah I reject a lot to every person that contacts me for some reason. But it's not my fault. I'm down to earth. Since I said it on my profile then people that email/call me back when I reject them are wrong when they say anything that might prove I'm not.

- I have no desire to fill out a profile except in vague terms that really have no meaning other than adding positive associations.
I like walks on the beach, laughing, and puppies too.
I have to put something here or it won't let me move on to looking at the pictures and getting mail.
I am only here for others to present themselves to me so I can pick and choose. It's not a two way street. It's about me. I have no intention of putting any of my true personality in my profile.
I might miss out on mr or mrs right if I commit to a personality.
I have to be as attractive to as many people as possible.

- I read somewhere that men/women like a woman/man who is down to earth.
And I've decided that I am down to earth.
I have no idea what it means.
I just know I will be seen as more attractive if I am down to earth.
And now I truly believe I am down to earth.
I'm also funny, smart, ambitious, romantic, independent, attractive, kids are my world, I can dress up or down to go out or stay in, love cuddling, and giving back rubs.
Really, I do nothing but watch netflix and masturbate.
But I want to be those other things.
And now that my profile says those things, then I am those things.

- I hate talking about myself because really I don't want to face myself or who I really am. To tell you the truth, and I never will, I behave badly. I also put relationship on my profile when really I've been using online dating sites for 7+ years and it seems no relationship has lasted more than a handful of months, and 90% of "relationships" seem to magically end right after I sleep with someone.
So...I'm just going to put on my profile that which I read in a lot of other peoples profiles, like being down to earth.

- Simple. Not wanting anything complicated or dramatic or over thought.

- I will not think about you when we aren't talking to each other. I have other stuff to do and I focus on things as they come.

- don't expect me to dress up or put much effort into dating. I will show up in sweats or shorts or whatever I feel like. Don't expect makeup or an ironed shirt or clean.

what exactly is YOUR definition of "open minded"?

The meanings I've run into are:
- I just watched/read 50 shades of grey and now I am shopping for a guy like that.
- I want to set up a rape fantasy.

- I have a complicated life. I have 5 kids from 4 different guys, 3 of which live with me. 3 of the guys that knocked me up live with me. Plus the kids. Complicated.

- I'm pregnant.
- I'm handicapped.
- I am bisexul.
- I am heavy into the LGBT lifestyle.
- I am heavy into the S&M lifestyle.
- I've got a LOT of baggage.
- I have a fwb and/or sugardaddy and I have no desire to lose either.
- I am married.



How about we stick with YOUR personal definition instead of the inferences you have drawn from your analyzing others.

Who is Tom Cire? Is he down to earth? Is he open minded? How does he define these cliche terms?
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sweetestgirl11

Tue 05/26/15 08:38 PM


I read the following phrases often but have no idea what the writer means by them. So, what exactly is YOUR definition of "down to earth" and "open minded"?

When I read "open minded" for example, it translates to "swinging" or that one of the people in that relationship is going to wind up dressed in head to toe leather!

Explain yourself!










I kinda of think like you in the open minded thing...like you have to accept someone who's a pervert or your not "open minded"

uh fine, call me close minded but I am not doing with you and your cousin while your sister rolls the film...lol

Down to earth I read as nosy...jmho
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regularfeller

Tue 05/26/15 08:45 PM



I read the following phrases often but have no idea what the writer means by them. So, what exactly is YOUR definition of "down to earth" and "open minded"?

When I read "open minded" for example, it translates to "swinging" or that one of the people in that relationship is going to wind up dressed in head to toe leather!

Explain yourself!










I kinda of think like you in the open minded thing...like you have to accept someone who's a pervert or your not "open minded"

uh fine, call me close minded but I am not doing with you and your cousin while your sister rolls the film...lol

Down to earth I read as nosy...jmho


How'd you know I's a hillbilly? :laughing:
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no1phD

Tue 05/26/15 08:53 PM


Open minded means they want a freak in the sheets and down to earth means boringbigsmile
..hmm... well in that case I am so open minded.. you can see my brains.. laugh laugh ..... and I am so far above Earth...... I'm just receiving the Dick Van Dyke Show now....laugh
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shanefromnola

Tue 05/26/15 09:58 PM



Open minded means they want a freak in the sheets and down to earth means boringbigsmile
..hmm... well in that case I am so open minded.. you can see my brains.. laugh laugh ..... and I am so far above Earth...... I'm just receiving the Dick Van Dyke Show now....laugh


Lol. Doesn't everyone want a freak in the sheets?
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no1phD

Tue 05/26/15 10:14 PM

Ohhh.. you are new!! to this place aren't you..?..lol..... you know what that's a good question..op.. perhaps you should start a topic on that very subject...lmfao..... I'm sure a lot of women on here.. would love to give their opinion on that topic....lol..

. seriously you should start a topic...

... call it the freak beneath the sheets..lol..good our bad..:thumbsup:
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Argo

Tue 05/26/15 10:25 PM

open-minded.....my 2nd cousin is kinda cute..
down-to-earth....i'm satisified livin' in the double-wide...
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mikey5360

Tue 05/26/15 10:29 PM

A few years ago you would see must be open minded in the housemate wanted ads in the paper....
usually meant the ad placer liked walking around in his underwear or was a drug taker....
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regularfeller

Tue 05/26/15 11:12 PM


open-minded.....my 2nd cousin is kinda cute..
down-to-earth....i'm satisified livin' in the double-wide...


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HoneyFly

Wed 05/27/15 12:46 AM



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SitkaRains

Wed 05/27/15 01:31 PM




Okay, well how many of you women would consider yourselves free spirits? I get tired of seeing open minded and down to earth
I know I am... I will say until I retire in another month I am a bit chained down to my job...I know my heart and soul is freespirited I walk to my own drum beat..

what is your definition of "Free Spirited"?


AHA! :angry: Thread thief!!!
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Sorry...flowerforyou flowerforyou
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regularfeller

Wed 05/27/15 02:13 PM





Okay, well how many of you women would consider yourselves free spirits? I get tired of seeing open minded and down to earth
I know I am... I will say until I retire in another month I am a bit chained down to my job...I know my heart and soul is freespirited I walk to my own drum beat..

what is your definition of "Free Spirited"?


AHA! :angry: Thread thief!!!
:laughing:


Sorry...flowerforyou flowerforyou


Don't be silly! I was 100% ribbing you!

blushing you can steal my thread anytime....but you'll need to see Pancho for the, uh....needle :wink: