Good Lord, woman, the man should realize we are going to be doing some serious redecorating once we move in with them. We need to spruce up the dusty old place and make it look fresh and elegant and fancy.

I am all for buying new furnishings. But it is a well known and well received fact that women are in charge of the home decorating and decor and every house needs a woman's touch to make it classy and habitable.

Yes, I agree with you there... but I know from experience that not every man feels the same way, haha.
Also, since many men live on their own for x amount of years these days, have to run and decorate their own homes, more men get into developing their own tastes and styles, and may be less open to other things. (?)
But yeah... maybe with the right match you also have similar tastes? I do know I'd go nuts if a man would want white walls, black furniture and/or lots of chrome. That kind of style. I HATE it.

my ex husband got married a year ago to a woman that owned her own home
he inherited half a house full of stuff that was in storage
she told him that his stuff had to go down in basement
he was not 'allowed' to even hang a picture on wall without her permission
they're divorce court date is scheduled for next month


just saying

Perhaps his chambers, her chambers? Meet in the guestroom for some afternoon delight. I think you're right, some people develop a sense of solitude they like to hold on to.

i don't know...maybe. probably. or not.

(this isn't some kind of covert offer is it?)

I think each having their own room would be good. Not like their own living room, but more like a hobby room thing. Things improved greatly with my ex when I finally got some space for myself, even though it wasn't a large room. A place to meditate or to be etc. He'd always had his own room, I had nothing. The living room was like a bus station with 3 teenage kids and chitloads of friends coming and going all the time. Mostly his kid's friends. I felt crushed, invaded, walked all over. So for me it's a bit of a thing. I like my peace and quiet. As I let that happen myself, I have to make sure I won't let that happen again.
And likely a partner won't want my crystals and crystal skulls everywhere through our home, so I'd need a room for myself.

Done it once. It didn't take.

I am still a true believer.

Once I figure out how to make Belgium (or something) work, I will leap in a heartbeat!

I would drive a 1000 miles just to have coffee with the right woman...just saying.