Topic: Treat a woman like you would you mom .
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 12:24 PM

I was thought the old fashion way . Frying pan to the head if ever was disrespectful to a woman . Even though I'm divorced we left on good terms . And have the best of respect for each other for the sake of raising our kids with respect for others and to always help out our elders .when asked too . With all that said ! I like too have fun and chat and can take what ever is dished out at me . :innocent: I would like to meet some new friends . And chat . I would like to meet someone close to home . I want to wish all of you the best
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graygentleman

Sun 11/29/15 12:47 PM

Sounds like you were also raised to be a gentleman!

Welcome to Mingle!

Good luck with your search!
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 01:43 PM


Sounds like you were also raised to be a gentleman!

Welcome to Mingle!

Good luck with your search!

Oh yes there were strict rules growing up in my family :persevere: and if anyone here has ever got a switch across the back of your legs you pray there is a sky hook way up high to grab because coming back down ment going back up . Yea we didn't go back for more .:innocent: I didn't swear In front of a woman till I was in my twentys . So thanks and I'm always up to good chat and hope you find who your looking for :blush: I'm sticking close to home I just need to get out more I work all week traveling around Canada and work on my truck most the weekends I need to slow down and enjoy life .
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Friendly_Woman

Sun 11/29/15 01:45 PM


I was thought the old fashion way . Frying pan to the head if ever was disrespectful to a woman . Even though I'm divorced we left on good terms . And have the best of respect for each other for the sake of raising our kids with respect for others and to always help out our elders .when asked too . With all that said ! I like too have fun and chat and can take what ever is dished out at me . :innocent: I would like to meet some new friends . And chat . I would like to meet someone close to home . I want to wish all of you the best


Welcome :) Not just saying it, but you sound like you know how to be truly respectful. Some of my male friends back home, reckon they're real gentlemen, but treat women like dirt. An awful thing to witness it. It makes me think less of them now. Good luck to you.
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PacificStar48

Sun 11/29/15 02:20 PM

Well I don't know I would want to be treated like someone's Mom exactly but being polite, respectful, and safe sure would be on the right track.flowerforyou

Always said how a person treats their Mom is a real tell how he will treat his date/wife. (Flip of that how women treat their Dad's) I think I would want just a touch of romance.

And it is not like I am such a priss I don't expect men to be men and women to be women but I sure feel sorry for the younger ones that don't get as many of the traditional courtesies that the old fashioned values used to bestow. The protections from some of the stupid mistakes some of the "common" values of today bring to bear on young lives.

I think how wonderful it would be for them to know the honor and respect that being valued for being honest and hard working and responsible being more important than sloppy language, dress, and too casual a life style bring to bear. That feeling of being liked and enjoyed rather than used. And that they are love not just lusted for.

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devildog123

Sun 11/29/15 03:29 PM


I was thought the old fashion way . Frying pan to the head if ever was disrespectful to a woman . Even though I'm divorced we left on good terms . And have the best of respect for each other for the sake of raising our kids with respect for others and to always help out our elders .when asked too . With all that said ! I like too have fun and chat and can take what ever is dished out at me . :innocent: I would like to meet some new friends . And chat . I would like to meet someone close to home . I want to wish all of you the best


I will... when she starts to make lasagna like Mom.
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Sun 11/29/15 03:38 PM

All for respect and norms and values, not for violence in raising kids, and using a switch on them is violence.
How can you teach respect if what you show yourself is as disrespectful as it can get?
I chose to teach my kids respect by example, not by fear, and I can say I did a pretty danged good job at it! Can't understand someone being proud of having been beaten. If that was done to a dog, ppl would get livid, if it a child, it's suddenly admirable? noway

I wouldn't want to be treated like a guy's mom either. But I think things may still be somewhat different over there. Here it's pretty common and normal for a man to treat a woman with respect.

Anyways, welcome to Mingle and good luck
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mightymoe

Sun 11/29/15 03:38 PM

this is for all the Howard Wolowitz fans out there...
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catinidaho

Sun 11/29/15 03:46 PM

I was married to someone who never talked about his childhood, never had anything positive to say about his mother, had only brothers and no sisters. I guess that should have been a red alert to me. He was divorced 3 times before me. I should have picked up on that. He didn't know much about women, and maybe didn't like women much. On the positive side, that has not deterred me since I know that there are a lot of great men out there!
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Rock

Sun 11/29/15 03:53 PM

But... My mom is actually nice. frustrated
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 03:53 PM


Well I don't know I would want to be treated like someone's Mom exactly but being polite, respectful, and safe sure would be on the right track.flowerforyou

Always said how a person treats their Mom is a real tell how he will treat his date/wife. (Flip of that how women treat their Dad's) I think I would want just a touch of romance.

And it is not like I am such a priss I don't expect men to be men and women to be women but I sure feel sorry for the younger ones that don't get as many of the traditional courtesies that the old fashioned values used to bestow. The protections from some of the stupid mistakes some of the "common" values of today bring to bear on young lives.

I think how wonderful it would be for them to know the honor and respect that being valued for being honest and hard working and responsible being more important than sloppy language, dress, and too casual a life style bring to bear. That feeling of being liked and enjoyed rather than used. And that they are love not just lusted for.



Lol well I was trying to be respectful lol that's what I met a the way he treats his mom is a good way to look at the man as a person . :blush: I didn't mention the romance lol I was trying to have a bit of respect lol I know how to read a woman like a book and give her what she needs
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 03:54 PM


But... My mom is actually nice. frustrated

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catinidaho

Sun 11/29/15 04:14 PM

Well. my Mom was a great woman and she died when I was 20 years old. Nobody seems to care about her.
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 04:17 PM


I was married to someone who never talked about his childhood, never had anything positive to say about his mother, had only brothers and no sisters. I guess that should have been a red alert to me. He was divorced 3 times before me. I should have picked up on that. He didn't know much about women, and maybe didn't like women much. On the positive side, that has not deterred me since I know that there are a lot of great men out there!

Ya know we'll all make our mistakes in ours lives . I've tried to learn from mine
The hard way . But you are a much stronger woman now and I'm a 100% sure your going to let a man walk on you again . None of us deserve second best .im not going to settle for nothing less .tgan the woman that steals my heart and soul I just haven't found her yet in my life but she is out there . We all have our own someone out there .
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 04:28 PM



But... My mom is actually nice. frustrated



:thumbsup:
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 04:30 PM


Well. my Mom was a great woman and she died when I was 20 years old. Nobody seems to care about her.

Sorry about your mom . I know some who cares . You
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toolbox67

Sun 11/29/15 04:30 PM


Well. my Mom was a great woman and she died when I was 20 years old. Nobody seems to care about her.

Sorry about your mom . I know some who cares . You
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Jackmackie10

Sun 11/29/15 04:45 PM

You're right.... Women should be respected i agreed with you 80%... Cos they're our mothers and sisters... but here a universal truth... i think most of these women nowadays are the reason for being disrespected by men in there relationship... They like men, crave what they can’t have. Whether it’s designer clothes, unlimited bread sticks or men who will never settle down… they long for what they know is bad for them... Some will prefer to go after a man... Who will break their heart, he will always cheat on them and will never apologize.
He’s a smooth talker, a charmer, the one who just has something about him. He’s also the one who forgets to call, never follows through and is most likely always with another woman. He’s an arseh*le, a flirt and just general bad news about him..... So chasing those type of bad guys will be fed them up with being disrespected... Just my own thought about them.. Hope it make sense... An i have also come across one who dump me becos of an hindu guy... Can you imagine they worshiped cow lol..
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PacificStar48

Sun 11/29/15 04:45 PM



Well. my Mom was a great woman and she died when I was 20 years old. Nobody seems to care about her.

Sorry about your mom . I know some who cares . You


OP what a classy answer.flowerforyou flowerforyou

I am sure it helped a lot of people to hear that answer.
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PacificStar48

Sun 11/29/15 04:55 PM


I was married to someone who never talked about his childhood, never had anything positive to say about his mother, had only brothers and no sisters. I guess that should have been a red alert to me. He was divorced 3 times before me. I should have picked up on that. He didn't know much about women, and maybe didn't like women much. On the positive side, that has not deterred me since I know that there are a lot of great men out there!


Makes my heart ache to hear how many people carry unhappy early lives into future relationships repeating what clearly makes others as miserable as themselves. You were probably right he knew very little about women which is often the case of people who raise up in absent parent households for whatever the reason.

I know the ONLY reason I was remotely able to take the skills I needed into my adult years was the people who stepped up and mentored me into those skills. I think Mingle can often be that for us. Even though we are not "kids" anymore sometimes we can learn from each other and even from our own self study/personal developement.