Do you know your bad qualities?
I'm sure I'm aware of some, and unaware of others.
And of those I think I'm aware of I'm probably wrong about some of them, and/or don't understand some others and think they're bad for the wrong reasons.
And of those I'm unaware of I probably wouldn't believe it if someone told me what one/they were.
Men often ask this
Are they not very smart?
This is just asking "what are you insecure about?"
And basically they are asking you to fill your mind with your insecurities, of thinking how you are "bad."
And you can't really do that unless you either:
1. Turn off your emotions and look at them objectively.
2. Not turn off your emotions and start feeling extremely insecure as the only things you are thinking about are what make you bad, what people would judge you as a bad person for doing.
Feeling nothing or feeling insecure/like a bad person is not going to help a date or a conversation when you're trying to positively bond with someone.
And that assumes they are seen as actual "bad" qualities and don't idealize them. Like how some women pretend to be proud to be a "btch" but when you ask them what that means it's just a bunch of positive or relatively harmless adjectives.
Which means they either don't really know their "bad" qualities, or they're lying/prevaricating.
And if they actually list "bad" qualities and are proud of them? You're dating a psycho and are probably in immediate danger.
There's nothing positive that comes by asking the question without any kind of framework.
It's different if they are an employer asking this.
There is an implied qualifier. "What are your bad qualities/weaknesses...that are specifically relevant to your limited function of doing the job you are applying for?"
Aren't bad qualities in the eye of the beholder?
In a practical to dating sense some are, some aren't, some are both.
Could you name your bad qualities?
Not to someone that didn't know me where naming them offered little actual context as to the severity of how bad they are in a practical sense.
And if we're in the early stages, where it's all happy happy joy joy chemicals making us overlook each others negative qualities?
Then it's pointless and most likely a means to try "go too fast" and skip the next phase of the process where you actually have to face each others limitations.
