Hello all, I was just curious to know your opinions on taking breaks during relationships. I've been dating my gf for about 4 years now, and she keeps insisting every now and then that she needs a break, can someone explain why people feel like they need "breaks" instead of trying to resolve whatever issue the relationships has?

Dating for four years??? I'd take a permanent break from that!
If a guy doesn't want to get serious, I'm out.

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Topic: Is taking breaks in relationships good?

The thing is I'm actually really serious about her, I'm 23 atm and maybe in like 2 yrs after I get my own place I'd like to marry her if we get to that point...

Absolutely.
But in this case, the OP, would of been 18-19 at the time. So the girl was his age or younger.

Puppy love maybe. And maybe now they are just growing up & apart .

Yes I'm new to the site and didn't know how to delete the other one, I figured that was a more appropriate place to post my question

Yes I'm new to the site and didn't know how to delete the other one, I figured that was a more appropriate place to post my question

That is a lot of ' Maybe'
And how old is she? And is she willing to WAIT TWO years for a MAYBE?

If women want to have their own place, marry, have children, then 2 years is a hell of a long time, especially for a ' maybe '

Ah, okay.
But still not clear to me ... you say you're just dating yet you speak of a long term relationship. Just dating isn't a long term relationship.
That may be the exact problem she's having and the reason for her wanting breaks. Could be that she simply wants you to step up to the plate.

Other possibility is that this dating-relationship doesn't really feel right to her. Maybe it's too ... (take your pick: boring, constricting, not-going-anywhere)

Can also be that she doesn't want it to get serious and that whenever she feels you are, she wants a break for a bit.

So you see, many options. We don't know the answer. The only one who does, is her. So TALK to her!!! Ask her, address the issue.

Indeed ... 2 years is a long time to wait for a maybe ...
On the other hand side, him 23, she maybe younger, no need to rush.
There seems to be a need to talk though ...

We're both 23, and I think I chose the wrong set of words there. In 2 years I will aim to get my own place I've recently landed a great paying job so it won't be a "maybe" just a when, and yes I want to marry her