Disappointed.
Had my first date in many years tonight and though we had fun and he's a nice guy I didn't feel the rush of excitement. So he wants a second date - is there any point?
Yeah, unless you feel enormous reluctance towards him there is certainly a point!
Your first date in many years, give yourself a break! Often you then have too high expectations of the date, the man and what you're going to feel.
I know I did on my first date. I had this naive idea in my head that I would meet the love of my life right away and things would be hunky dory and we'd live happily ever after, haha.
Real life doesn't work that way.
The best way to get into the groove is to date. So go on that second date. Lower your expectations. Just expect and aim to have a good time, a nice afternoon/evening, nothing more, nothing less.
Don't ever expect to meet the love of your life when you go on a first date with someone, then you cannot really go wrong. If it then works out, it works out, if not you've at least had a good time AND you have been training your social, flirting, and dating 'muscles' which is a BIG plus!! Such skills will help you on other dates with other men.
So unless the man is totally repulsive, go on that second date!! Have some fun in life, enjoy it :)
Maybe you're right but I really want that instant connection and spark. Yes I could date him but it s not fair if my heart's not in it and I don't just want a fling. But I 'm happy to have got past this milestone. I was so scared
Well there's some pointers there!
How can you feel a spark when you were so scared? You can't!!!
Your heart doesn't have to be in it, not in that way. A date does NOT equal a commitment, ya know!
The only thing a date is about is getting to know each other. Two single people meeting up for the first time over drinks. NOT two lovers meeting. You are only getting acquainted :)
Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
on Wed 09/21/16 02:29 AM