What do you usually say when sending an email to someone on Mingle that you are interested in knowing better?
Depends on what their profile and pictures say about them.
I keep getting "Hi beautiful, (gorgeous, pretty, sweetheart, dear etc) I would like to get to know you better". Which BTW does not work on me. If I wanted to hear a pickup line I wouldn't be here I would be in a bar or a club.
That's great...How many guys have you sent a first message to?
I mean if you wanted to sit around and wait for guys to chase you, you could be in a bar or a club.
So what do you usually say when sending an email to someone on Mingle that you are interested in knowing better?
Every email you get is an opportunity to start a conversation.
Doesn't really matter what it says.
Some conversations just aren't worth having.
If you're actually looking to date someone and you're passing every opportunity that comes along for the sake of principle and finding someone that naturally approaches you the way you want, you're going to be here, or coming back off and on as you only fall for the people that know how to tell you what you want to hear, for a very long time.
because this is online dating, I would rather strike up a friendship first and see where it goes from there.
Because this is online dating, you are one profile in a sea of hundreds, thousands, and millions.
In a club you are 1 of 20 girls in a sea of 100 men.
Online you are 1 of thousands of women, and no sea of men.
Men don't see the profiles of other men.
Out of sight, out of mind.
Men aren't immediately competing with other men for each women, women are competing with each other.
There's a huge difference in the psychology.
I want to know what we have in common if anything at all and get to know the other persons personality a bit
What you want is worth about as much as a click on the next profile.
Otherwise, what you're asking for is the point of actual dating.
What works for you and what doesn't?
What works for me is avoiding people looking to build online relationships.
What doesn't work for me is holding anyone else, or their approach, responsible for my lack of dates.