Age is not just a number.
It's an argument ppl use to support their own interest in either a lot older or a lot younger. So they use it cos it suits them.
But it sure as heck is not just a number.
I used to say '5 yrs either way' too, but I even question that. 5 yrs younger could match me with a man 45 yrs old, and I think the gap would be too much. Men usually are less mature than women, even at this age. No offense nor judgement btw, just fact.
The one who has my interest is 4 yrs older, and I must say I like that a lot, more than I ever thought I would. His level of maturity, doubt I could find that with a younger man, even if he was just 3 yrs younger than me.
The fallacy in reasoning regarding age is that emotional, intellectual, spiritual maturity does not necessarily follow with the passage of time. Seeking a generalization is a convenient shortcut to defining dating parameters but if looked more closely, one can find people ( male and female) who are excellent matches at both upper or lower ends of age. Socialization being so influential many will simply comply with CW ( conventional wisdom) and not actually examine the complexity of the process and then make an informed decision regarding whom to date. Maturity across varied dimensions is complex and the possible matchup is there if the two people each experience what they desire in a partner and that explains some of may December relations such as Michael Douglas, Alex Baldwin, J Lo, and others with more than twenty years in age difference....
