Topic: Is it possible to talk with a guy and not have him wanting t
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trudds

Mon 11/28/16 01:30 AM

Is it possible to talk with a guy and not have him wanting to show me his genitals? :thinking: its disturbing how many just send a pic, of the ones that ask first i just say no thanks and delete them but damn its annoying
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 11/28/16 01:41 AM

Yep, very possible. It happened to me twice in the 4 years I've been on dating sites.
But I don't start talking about FWB in my profile text. Typically you attract what you state you don't want. If you change your profile text, keep it positive and only state what you are looking for, it will probably stop.
The ones that get harassed are almost always people that say stuff like "I do not want this. If you do that, don't contact me, if you are like this, do not contact me!" Often typed in capitals.
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mzrosie

Mon 11/28/16 01:47 AM

Please report them by clicking Report Abuse at the right bottom of the email
>>> inappropriate photo
and in the "Additional Comment" box
>>> type "penis pic"

that should get the attention of admin pronto and they will take it from there.

I hope this helps.

Rosie
Site Moderator

P.S. - For those who ask first, don't just delete... Block them!
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trudds

Mon 11/28/16 01:59 AM

Yep, very possible. It happened to me twice in the 4 years I've been on dating sites.
But I don't start talking about FWB in my profile text. Typically you attract what you state you don't want. If you change your profile text, keep it positive and only state what you are looking for, it will probably stop.
The ones that get harassed are almost always people that say stuff like "I do not want this. If you do that, don't contact me, if you are like this, do not contact me!" Often typed in capitals.

ok, i will edit it and hopefully the sleaze will stop, thanks for the advice :blush:
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trudds

Mon 11/28/16 02:02 AM

Please report them by clicking Report Abuse at the right bottom of the email
>>> inappropriate photo
and in the "Additional Comment" box
>>> type "penis pic"

that should get the attention of admin pronto and they will take it from there.

I hope this helps.

Rosie
Site Moderator

P.S. - For those who ask first, don't just delete... Block them!

i do block and report them, its annoying as i get this a few times a day but not just on here. I may have to screen shot "blue waffle" and send it as a response lol
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SimpyComplicated

Mon 11/28/16 02:18 AM


Yep, very possible. It happened to me twice in the 4 years I've been on dating sites.
But I don't start talking about FWB in my profile text. Typically you attract what you state you don't want. If you change your profile text, keep it positive and only state what you are looking for, it will probably stop.
The ones that get harassed are almost always people that say stuff like "I do not want this. If you do that, don't contact me, if you are like this, do not contact me!" Often typed in capitals.


Good advice from CrystalFairy

Stating what you don't want can be encouraging of the encouragables in that the will think all the others have worn you down and they may have a chance.

Stating what you do want leaves you open to the players pretending to be what you want. But that's what players do whether you tell them what you want or not.

Stating what you do want is a stronger position that has you as the chooser of what you will accept.

Stating what you don't want has you as a potential victim defending yourself from others choices.

Its a fine line between victim hood and being a strong defender

Not sure if that all makes sense
But

You will always be a defender and a chooser.... Choose wisely
Edited by SimpyComplicated on Mon 11/28/16 02:28 AM
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isaac_dede

Mon 11/28/16 03:05 AM

here's a pic for you!
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NotPay4Play

Mon 11/28/16 03:29 AM


Please report them by clicking Report Abuse at the right bottom of the email
>>> inappropriate photo
and in the "Additional Comment" box
>>> type "penis pic"

that should get the attention of admin pronto and they will take it from there.

I hope this helps.

Rosie
Site Moderator

P.S. - For those who ask first, don't just delete... Block them!

i do block and report them, its annoying as i get this a few times a day but not just on here. I may have to screen shot "blue waffle" and send it as a response lol


Blue waffle that's a good one. Lol. Or download a picture of a gigantic * coughs* um shall we say personal toy..
Send that to them with the caption " mine is bigger than yours."
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Mon 11/28/16 03:41 AM



Yep, very possible. It happened to me twice in the 4 years I've been on dating sites.
But I don't start talking about FWB in my profile text. Typically you attract what you state you don't want. If you change your profile text, keep it positive and only state what you are looking for, it will probably stop.
The ones that get harassed are almost always people that say stuff like "I do not want this. If you do that, don't contact me, if you are like this, do not contact me!" Often typed in capitals.


Good advice from CrystalFairy

Stating what you don't want can be encouraging of the encouragables in that the will think all the others have worn you down and they may have a chance.

Stating what you do want leaves you open to the players pretending to be what you want. But that's what players do whether you tell them what you want or not.

Stating what you do want is a stronger position that has you as the chooser of what you will accept.

Stating what you don't want has you as a potential victim defending yourself from others choices.

Its a fine line between victim hood and being a strong defender

Not sure if that all makes sense
But

You will always be a defender and a chooser.... Choose wisely


Thank you for that addition, very insightful :) Love it flowerforyou waving
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SimpyComplicated

Mon 11/28/16 04:26 AM

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wantanicegirl2

Mon 11/28/16 12:42 PM

Wise up trudds.
Any dweeb nasty enough to parade his privates is probably not even showing off his own stuff. He probably went onto a porn site and hijacked a photo.
Tell him you know for a fact that his foot long sub actually belongs to someone else and not to bother sending his real two inch pencil as you don't have a magnifying glass to see it with
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trudds

Mon 11/28/16 01:45 PM

Wise up trudds.
Any dweeb nasty enough to parade his privates is probably not even showing off his own stuff. He probably went onto a porn site and hijacked a photo.
Tell him you know for a fact that his foot long sub actually belongs to someone else and not to bother sending his real two inch pencil as you don't have a magnifying glass to see it with

lol, i needed that laugh :blush:
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trudds

Mon 11/28/16 01:46 PM

also:
when you say youre lookin for 'fun' or like a 'good time' this is internet code for sex. just sayin. lol

so the only way people have fun now days is by screwing? I must be the most dull person on the planet then
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Errol

Mon 11/28/16 02:29 PM

Pigs. I think they are a disgrace. I can't get a woman to say hi Snead I am a decent man. Tough world for us Yucatan
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2b_single

Mon 11/28/16 02:38 PM

Never showing my junk online,

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jeams007

Mon 11/28/16 04:11 PM

can any girl chat with me
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Goofball73

Mon 11/28/16 05:37 PM


Is it possible to talk with a guy and not have him wanting to show me his genitals? :thinking: its disturbing how many just send a pic, of the ones that ask first i just say no thanks and delete them but damn its annoying


It's the same for us dudes. We start talking to a girl and next thing you know she is sending a pic of her boobs. The Nerve!!! I just want meaningful conversation for the first five emails.....boob pics can be sent on email six. Come on ladies....help a brotha out. frustrated laugh
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trudds

Mon 11/28/16 08:53 PM


Please report them by clicking Report Abuse at the right bottom of the email
>>> inappropriate photo
and in the "Additional Comment" box
>>> type "penis pic"

that should get the attention of admin pronto and they will take it from there.

I hope this helps.

Rosie
Site Moderator

P.S. - For those who ask first, don't just delete... Block them!

i do block and report them, its annoying as i get this a few times a day but not just on here. I may have to screen shot "blue waffle" and send it as a response lol


Blue waffle that's a good one. Lol. Or download a picture of a gigantic * coughs* um shall we say personal toy..
Send that to them with the caption " mine is bigger than yours."

lmfao, great idea but I am hoping i wont need to do that.
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mecj75

Mon 11/28/16 09:13 PM

its very annoying ...why men shows their genitals in public??it seems that they dont mind anymore..
i have one experienced..when i accept him in skype video the first thing i saw is his genitals..at first i dont know wat it is..then i ask...wat is dat???it is your thumb finger..??
haha...then i blocked him..
sorry men but its true..
hahaha....



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trudds

Tue 11/29/16 02:31 PM

its very annoying ...why men shows their genitals in public??it seems that they dont mind anymore..
i have one experienced..when i accept him in skype video the first thing i saw is his genitals..at first i dont know wat it is..then i ask...wat is dat???it is your thumb finger..??
haha...then i blocked him..
sorry men but its true..
hahaha....




lmfao, brilliant!!