in just two days in this site I have so many messages but you can determine who is really telling the truth about them selfs

you're right. I'm the only one who is telling the truth, so why even bother with all the other guys?

lol

Maybe select the ones that have not put their foot in their mouth or shown undesirable traits such as vanity, lack of compassion etc.. Then ask those people what they are looking for, you will get a feel quickly for those that you can eliminate and those that are worth further investigation! (This is not a detective case, but we might all be better of if it were!!)

Good luck to you.x ;)

There are two general stages of learning for online socializing:

1. learning to recognize entirely fake profiles quickly;

2. coming to grips with the fact that NO ONE, including even mythical deities, is 100% honest and factual about themselves. What we have to learn is, whether what each person "enhances" about themselves, or "disguises" about themselves, really matters.

The second is the really hard part.

I've been online now long enough to have seen that what a lot of people do, when they first get fooled by someone in an unpleasant way, is to make themselves a long list of "red flag" hints, for what people say in profiles, or how they communicate. Then they discard all the people who chance to run afoul of their list, often very aggressively and rudely. Eventually most people seem to calm down a bit, when they get tired of spending all that time and energy attacking strangers in public, and then just quietly ignore the ones they don't like.

But the main thing is, any shortcuts I or anyone else could offer you, would need to be taken on very carefully by you, in order not to backfire.

So what I would recommend most, is to put your energy in to learning about YOURSELF, first. Figure out what you are attracted to, and more importantly, why you are so attracted. Knowing why, will allow you to better recognize who actually has the qualities you want, and who is just pretending to have them.

Not fair. Most guys will put their foot In their mouths at least 5 or so times during a conversation.

Right on. I thought that foot-in-mouth was the primary way for us males to demonstrate our charm.