If someone would like to help but only on their terms is it still help ???
Your question is subjective . Perhaps you can give a specific example of the type of help offered . .
There are many ways to approach help but clear honest communication is always important . There is no guarantee that helpful Intentions will meet your expectations or assumptions . Only you can decide if the consequence of accepting help different to what you asked for is appropriate and safe.
Hi Blondey111,
Thank you so much for your advice.
Now, I'm pretty sure, that only I can decide if the consequences are appropriate and safe.
What important not always, we have to agree on the terms only because someone would like to help.
What's happened to me, that I feeling I need an advice to be sure that my way of thinking is correct.
I realize that each of situation is different and specific.
I asked someone about information, that if it will be any opportunity to take a job, I will grateful for contact.
I received proposition a job in the kitchen for an almost a half of lowest wage in the Poland.
For that, this person demanded a cleaning the 70sqm apartment for free, for 2 months.
People here are thinking that because they are helping I'm obligate to do everything what they demand, only because I ask or need this. Very often they didn't accept the words "no, thank you so much", only because I asked about it, they didn't accept that I have to right to thank them very polite.
Even if I explain what was the reason of my decision, they still didn't accept how I can refuse..
It is only one example, but the mentality of people is very often the same here.
I know, that I have always a right of choice, no matter what is going on.
I'm feeling that my point of view, and way of thinking is correct.
If I may to ask, am I right, that always are a boundaries which we have to respect and it should be working in two ways?
I met so many people in Poland, who didn't respect it in different situations, not always it is connected with helping, that's why I decided to post my question.