@crystal !!!
Perhaps you were that exception .... come to think of it ... pretty sure you were !!!
My point was we all lose something in the break up of our relationships , so why the risk of doing that again !!
Hence , the living together apart relationship, could be considered the ideal kinda one for people with that mindset . It has nothing to do with man versus woman .....
In a way, yes, but then you got two damaged people in a relationship which thus can never be whole. It could be enough if both aren't willing to work on healing etc.
I mentioned all that in my post on pg 1, and the thing is that if you want a truly healthy fulfilling relationship you
have to be willing to risk getting hurt again.
If you don't you keep most of your heart closed, protected and shielded.
That does keep you from getting hurt up to a point (not entirely!) but... it also keeps you from being able to feel love and to receive love.
Love is simply a thing that requires an open heart and with that the willingness to risk get hurt.
It's the only way to experience love.
Everything is just a shallow thing, not a full on love relationship.
That's not to say LAT relationships can't be that. But then it'd be between 2 healthy people with open hearts that for another reason wish to not move in together.
And financial reasons are also based on fear of losing & lack, so these don't count in that sense.
An okay reason could be that one for instance needed a house with garden in a village or small town to feel fulfilled and at piece, the other hates that, wants to live in an apartment in a city.
That's totally not related to any fear of lack, losing, etc. that would have the heart mostly closed.