Why is it that when I offer to pay on a date and the guy tries to play the I earn more so it's fine, but when I tell them my salary they go sheepish and then don't tend to want to see me again?

Their ego, I think..they see it as giving up some
kind of control, never to be returned.

I guess some guys are intimidated when a woman makes more than them. Personally if the guy wants to pay for me I’m cool with that but then I’d tell him the next one is on me.

I guess I just worry about taking advantage or reinforcing that long ingrained stereotype when I am absolutely fine to pay for us both

For some men it’s hard to get past stereotypes. If you offer to pay for both and he still can’t get past it I’d move on and find someone who can.

I'll take you out and you can pay no problem ! xx

I can go for Dutch treat as well .

Some guys are 'old school' when it comes to paying on a date, maybe you need to establish who pays on a date beforehand, certainly a first date.

Hi

Holland is a long way to go to for a dinner date.

You shouldn't have to tell anyone how much money you make.

Dutch treat is slang for I’ll pay for mine and you pay for you (right?).

Um, maybe cuz you are 19 and dating younger guys, so clearly you make more at your job then their mom gives them for an allowance 🤦

hahahahahaha

Stupid male pride. Now I enjoy paying sometimes. Treating the other person. Money, outside of eha5 I need to live, means little to me

I wouldn't even tell a woman what I earn, as people where I live know that I own my own Construction company, as my name is on the vans that drive about, all over Scotland! I pay, on a date, because I can pay. I've never asked a woman for anything except my mum, when I was younger. Since I left School, at 18 though, I've been self sufficient!