Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong if anything?
This may be best answered by your two exes.
It seems like Farid's answer is the most suitable...
It is only your ex's who can answer your question...
And maybe you already have the answer, it's not you it's her, she didn't plan it, it just happened... (as you stated earlier)...
I would hazard a guess that without your realising, you and your partner grew apart...
And you didn't put closure on it, you got married again and then she left or you left...
Men and Women don't want partners who are carrying emotional baggage, it's over, close that book and throw it away (unless you have kids together - in which case you need to keep those bridges open, for the sake of your children)...
And thinking about it, or discussing it, shows that you have not put closure to it...
It gives the impression that you're thinking "what did I do wrong?"
I love the "Reason, Season and a Lifetime (3 Reasons)" poem or story or whatever it is that you call it...
It explains beautifully, the 3 reasons about relationship breakdown, and help put
closure on the topic of why did it happen...
Reason, Season and a Lifetime
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people anyway, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..