My 3yr old grandchild yesterday, Was excellent! So I told my daughter to take her out.
1. Go get her a balloon
2. Go to hastings and get a moive
3. Go to the park
4. Go and get her a treat (ice cream)
here is what happend, My daughter and her husband took there child to drop off the tapes, then to the park, off to the balloon place to pick one out.
lets say this, by the time they got to the balloon place she was so hyped up she was touching things, put a balloon in her mouth, then put some other toy she found in her mouth, her mother and father, Took her out of the store but finished getting treats. However she did not get any at all. And came home.
Who's fault was it, the parents or the 3 yr old child?
Never take a child to the park first! the child will get so hyped up and now you want to take her into a store where after 20min running around just went on.. NO>.. not going to happen.
So The parents got the child in trouble because of there decisions they chose to make!
The child lost out on ice cream because the parents did not listen or follow the advice that was given.
How to make the child feel she can control herself, and let her have a second chance to prove she can behave out in plublic.
1. The next day take child to The balloon shop! let her pick out the one she likes.
2. Take the child to go an pick out a movie for the night. If the child at this time still is in good behaivor. Then #3 is applyed
3. Take the child to the park and let them have fun.
4. Reward your child for her manners, respect and for self control at the same time make it a family treat so she dose not belive she is getting a reward every time she dose something?
5. Before she goes to sleep. (ps ice cream is a sleeping agent) Tell the child how proud you are of her that she was responisbule to behave so well today and next week she can pick a new color.
Once you teach your child to behave then and only then will your child do this. As long as you act proper in plublic around her.... Hint hint.. she will always do it also.
As for the punishment to the crime/ or situation.
If a child at 2 yrs old breakes a glass, whos falt is it the child or the parent.. parent, Why did you give a 2 yr old a glass.. ever here of plastic.
If you tell your 7 yr old to go and rake the grass and leaves, if you think they will not jump and play in that your wrong! there kids. Wrong chore for this age. See the point.
dont set a child up to Fail!
My grandchild runs a childcare center, she dose it all, from cooking the meals, to cleaning up the toys, even teaching the kids respect and manners, sign laungages, forein launages, you name it she dose it. She teaches them to behave! To make there beds and put them away after the nape time!..
What we teach a child is what a child will learn.
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I have enjoyed reading all of this and I can say this, YOU are all Right! your answers are just wonderful! and that I thank you all for coming together to talk about all of this for it is very important. Dhs will run your life if you let it. I know they run mine!
Is spanking important! Depends on the family, cultural and ethnics. Not to say Races but did you know that Blacks are allowed and expected to spank but whites, Asian, and Mexicans are not allowed too however American Indians are! It is what society expects.
Did you know that Whites are expected to baby there children and Asian are also so it is expected we are the only ones that breast feed??????? that is not a joke?????????
The image of are society needs to change. Please keep talking and really talk about his find out what is best for the child.
spanking.. or redirecting???? is it the parent or the child?
Edited by
sillyatheart3
on Tue 08/04/09 06:18 PM