Hi, I am new at this “Mutual Match” option. It seems one must pay to see who activated the “Mutual Match”. If not, Mingle2 will not let you see that person (giving the impression that the other person is not interested). In the past, I’ve been on a sight that did the same thing only to find out, it was a hoax. It was a computer “bot” activating this option and not the person of interest. I really don’t mine paying, but am kind of tired of false contacts that were activated by a computer rather than the person of interest. (because of the hoax in the past, there’s no way I would pay to use this option)

So, my question is: Is “Mutual Match” for real or is it another game to get around? Thanks

Mutual Match is just a fun way to connect. Before the upgrade even started, no one was able to see who said yes to them. Members could only see who said yes or maybe. The new feature to see who said yes is part of the upgrade.

This is for non premium members (just as it has been in the past. This part has not changed)

Frequently Asked Questions
Q. What is Mutual Match?
A. Mutual Match is a simple and fun way to meet people that are interested in meeting you! Here's how it works:

We'll show you profiles, one at a time, of people who match your search preferences.
For each profile, you select "Yes", "No", or "Maybe" when asked if you're interested in meeting him or her.
If you select "Yes" or "Maybe", we'll secretly show them your profile the next time they sign in.
If they indicate that they want to meet you too, you have a Mutual Match! We will email both of you alerting you to your new match
You can then email your new Mutual Match already knowing that you're both interested in meeting each other.
With Mutual Match, you can review profiles quickly and easily, and only send messages to people you have a mutual connection with. How simple is that?

Q. What happens to the profiles to whom I say "Yes" or "Maybe"? Will they know I'm interested in them?
A. If you say "Yes" or "Maybe" to a profile, we'll secretly show them your profile the next time they sign in. They won't know you're interested in them - your profile will be blended in with other random profiles that match their search criteria, and no indication will be given as to which is which.

Q. What happens to profiles to whom I say "No"? Will they find out I rejected them?
A. No. Once you've said "No" to a profile, you won't see that profile again, unless you want to. And we'll never tell them you rejected them. If you regret saying "No" to someone, you can change your search preferences to include all of the profiles you've said "No" to again and choose a new answer if you wish.


http://mingle2.com/mutual_match/faq

Hope this helps,

Kim

Hi Kim,

Am part polish and am a bit confused. So please be specific! Thanks

Going by what you have just said, I will assume it’s not a hoax, Right?

As to this being a “fun way to connect”, (for me) it’s a bit complicated. But than again, what do know…

Now, If am (the second party) NOT UP-GRADED, then am I to assume that if they (the first party) says yes/maybe to my profile (Mutual Match), that their yes/maybe with profile will be blended/camouflage with others so that I will not know who that person is that started this “fun way to connect… Mutual Match”?

Thanks

Let's say I said yes or maybe to you (I am upgraded) and you say yes or maybe back to me. I will be able to see if you said yes, but you wouldn't. You would just know that I said yes or maybe.

There are 2 ways to receive matches:
1. The system will show you matches based on your search criteria. 2. Another way is if someone sees your profile and they click "Match Me"

A member does not have to upgrade to participate in Mutual Match. Since Mutual Match started, members were only able to see who says yes or maybe to them. With the upgrade, an added feature of being able to see who said yes was added.

Nothing was taken away from members. Features were just added for the upgrade that weren't features before.

It is not a hoax, but it is not a guarantee either. It is just a tool to use (based on your search criteria) instead of doing an actual search.

You still didn't answer my question, but that's ok, it's just way too complicated for me.
Due to my lack of understanding, I think I will stay away from that feature.
Thanks anyway for your time. Steve

Hi, Steve. If I understand your question, then the answer is yes. You will not be able to tell who said yes or maybe to you (unless you have MinglePlus). Those accounts will be blended in with the other accounts you will be exposed to in Mutual Match.

Hi charles,

Fantastic! That's what I was looking for...

Thanks for making it clear to me.

Steve

hi...

i did use the "mutual match" the first day i was in this site, my questions are.

1. if the person that i was interested on will come to an instance that he/she will be interested on me too, is there gonna be a sort of information (e.g. email) will be given to let me know that the person is interested on be half of my appeal?

if there is, can i see who the person is?, (for we all know that we would not only be interested to one person only). In my case, i do use the "mutual match". when i returned to the site, i figure-out that two of them accepted my appeal. (like it says: people you want to meet that also want to meet you) meaning we both agreed that we are interested to each other.

2. how can i know who the person is, if i can't see them. do we need to upgrade first our account to a level which we can avail to see them?

I was under the assumption this dateing site was free but that word upgrade is defently is a more money thang huh and what dose it get one just wondering? as for mut mat some of the men show up on my mut mat anyway koolaid

Hello, jabella. If you have subscribed so that you get automatic email notifications, then you will be alerted, yes. If you both say "Yes" or "Maybe" to each other, the person's identity will be revealed to you. You should also read the Mutual Match FAQ, if you have not yet done so:
http://mingle2.com/mutual_match/faq

Hi, KoolAidWoman. You can see the premium features here:
https://secure.mingle2.com/images/mingleplus/premium-member-4.png?1268303095

Ok, I am one of the confused as well. I am sure this is a tiresome subject. So I am a non upgraded member. If I use mutual match and click yes or maybe, will a non upgraded member be notifed and thus, we will be aware of the match if this person also clicks yes or maybe? Or will they simply be notified of my interest and be able to reply?

Hello and welcome

Hi Kurt,

This section should explain your question:

We'll show you profiles, one at a time, of people who match your search preferences.
For each profile, you select "Yes", "No", or "Maybe" when asked if you're interested in meeting him or her.
If you select "Yes" or "Maybe", we'll secretly show them your profile the next time they sign in.
If they indicate that they want to meet you too, you have a Mutual Match! We will email both of you alerting you to your new match
You can then email your new Mutual Match already knowing that you're both interested in meeting each other.
With Mutual Match, you can review profiles quickly and easily, and only send messages to people you have a mutual connection with. How simple is that?

hope this helps,

Kim

Got it! thankyou.

Hi Kim,
I am new to this and confused by what you are saying. I have clicked no to several on the site and they keep appearing. Why is this?

Also, those I clicked yes or maybe to keep reappearing...does that mean they like me as well?

If they show in my mail messages on Mingle does that mean they have liked me or is it just because I liked them?

Thank you

jo it really is just a game not a serious tool for finding someone. especially if you are not paying for the upgraded membership.

but if both of you say yes to each other you will get mingle mail saying you have been matched and the other person will be listed in the mutual matches part of your home page.

as for repeating pics or profile names, they are most likely scammers. the system shows you each profile once only and starts by showing you profiles that fit your basic search settings. once they have shown you all of them, the system will reset your search parameters to the original defaults and show you every one, start with the closest to you first