Just wondering what women think of a single dad, I was reading a lot of these posts and theres a lot of questions about single moms, so just wondering.

I think single dad's are hardworking, they didn't put in much effort in their relationship with their ex wife, lonely, second hand, not as young, wiser, insensitive to emotions, immune to crap. But he's a good man if he takes care of his kids.

I'm sorry, but that seems not only contradictory, but extremely biased.

First of all, hats off to all single full-time fathers out there...some of us single moms know what you are going through.

I have always found single fathers more attractive than single men w/o children. Mainly due to the fact that I was medically advised that I would NEVER carry a child to full term...heh...they got that one wrong...my 8 y/o is proof of that.

Single fathers have given up any freedom they had to care for and raise their child/ren. The ones I have been privileged to meet and get to know are extremely hard working, sensitive to their children's needs, and are actually willing to talk to someone to get to know them first rather than trying to get the perspective mate in the sack first.

So I say, WAY TO GO DADS

Maybe I didn't want a relationship with a woman who decided to throw her life away on drugs instead of helping me raise the kids???

Heya Hippie!!! There ya go....see, like I said in my post.

kudos lyndy

Of course it depends on the individual Single Dad we are talking about but I feel, just as some single moms get a bad rap so do some single dad's.

If my experience with hundred's and hundred's of single dad's is any predictor the assumption that single Dad's did not attempt to have a workable relationship with the mother is just NOT so.

I have seen single Dad's make heroic efforts at rehabilitation efforts towards wive's and even Ex-wife's paying for counseling, education, houseing, provideing vehicals, airfair to bring in extended family to stableize the Mother's life and support their visitation, and spend themselves in to poverty paying legal fees trying to keep failed Mom's out of jail, off drugs, and out of homelessness. Wheather or not if the mother actually contributed to the financial needs of their children or co-parented later. Which often they did not. Opting instead to have secondary families and ignore the first family entirely.

While Mother's do often find themself as solo parent's with disabled children and siblings the number of Mother's who abandon ONLY the disabled child and disappear with the balance of the family was a particularly troubleing. Especially when the extended family; specificlly Grandparent's actively also abandoned the disabled child and were not always that secretive about hiding the location of the balance of the family. Because of the abscence of the Mother the father frequently had to downgrade employement and then became uninsurable, if they could find an employer that would hire them and add the extensive medical expenses to their insurance.

While clearly adultry is gender neutral in Militray families the number of military members finding spouses first takeing children then doing an about face and abandoning all or some of the children with little or no advance warning when the lover tired of the step parenting became such a problem that the military had to aggressively set up emergency systems and foster families for deployed soldiers. So again NOT all single Dad's choose to be single dad's or are at fault. Even "punished" for the fact that they are because the military policy of up or out means that any disruption to their career movement means they will most likely be invariably be seperated before retirement sometimes very late in their careers. Often where civilian employment is non-existent.

While I saw a number of single dad's fight for shared or sole custody on what appeared to be more of a effort to avoid child support and then park the child with extended family or shack up girlfriends they hoped to keep around if nothing else for that attachment to the child most of the mother's were also failed as parents and rarely retook custody if they could be found.

One thing I did see with single dad's was a consistent avoidance of legal committment and a common occurance of useing a series of girlfriend's as free day care/homemakers until the women caught on the situation was not going to change, that he would not willingly have additional children even lying about having had permenent birth control, and they left. Especially if they had been a single parent for more than five years.

For those single dad's that did want to remarry and co-parent with a single mom I saw an abnormally high number of Dad's that were amicable to family counseling, actively step-parenting, and frequently adopting abandoned step-children, even drawing them into family businesses, or assisting in advanced education. So they were all in.

probably about the same as what men think of single moms

personally, I think single dads are great boyfriend candidates as long as they really have, or want to make time to develop a relationship AND they are not involved with the ex except to drop off/pick up kids....otherwise they are usually responsible, family oriented men - both good qualities

Why thank ya

All I have to say about single full-time fathers is..... WE ARE THE BEEZ KNEEZ! ya know?

Really though, I would do ANYTHING for my daughters. Their mother didn't even send them gifts for Xmas, or even bother coming to visit them. Dead beat daddies?? There are just as many dead beat mommies out there as well.

As far as what women think about single dads....... I have heard many many nice things being said, how lucky my girls are to have the best dad, how I am doing so good, and that one day I will find someone. Blah blah blah. To tell you the truth, now that my head is screwed on tightly, I could give a rats *** if I find someone. I get to spend each waking day with the 2 most beautiful girls I have ever laid my eyes upon.

If someone wants to be a part of OUR lives, that would be bless, but I am through looking. Let them look for me. I am the catch. ;)

God bless every single full-time parent.

I give single dad's and mom's a lot of credit.

If you ever get time, like their mom actually takes 'em for the weekend or something, you should look if you can. I didn't, and now I am looking way late in life. It is worth it in the end, but would have been more pleasant if I could've found a single mommy to mend two families....

That would be nice, but she is 500 miles away and doesn't have any future plans. I will always be on the lookout though... thanx old hippie.

Speaking of old hippies, I met Jorge Cervantes a few years back at the IGE when I was doing testing for LumiGrow. Ah yes, those were the days of Calibuddz ..... 3Rutez is born. :D

i have met many GREAT SINGLE DADS who if it were possible would be the best moms ever. they value they cherish they care thy love their children fiercely in many instances better than the moms.yes single dads of merit exists and i salute them as they raise their children and still seek a second or third or even fourth chance at real happiness.

Thanks lyndy for standing up for us that we're not insensitive and didn't try and all...

No Problem my friend. Some people should just stop talking after the first few words..ya know what I mean?

I think ya got a point Old After a while it just gets too comfortable being single and the years start sliping by faster and faster. I will say I think you are really decent guy from what I have read of your posts Old and any of the local gals around there are really missing out not snatching you up.

Im the same way I spent 9 years with a woman who refused to quit drinking and doing drugs. When I saw that she was becoming a danger to our kids (at the time they were 6 years and 3 months) I asked her to leave. This isn't a life I chose and I fought real damn hard for a real long time to fix the situation. My point is that My children are more important to me than anything/anyone else. I would love to meet someone who is worthy of their trust, but it is not easy.

Only a single parent can understand what other single parents really go through in a day.. it's great to see that some fathers don't run from the responsibility.. :-) I never thought my life would turn out to be this way but I wouldn't change a thing and I'm sure that single fathers feel the same way.. :-)

What she said. I'm a single mother of two. I gave up everything for my kids. They come first no matter what. Regardless of whether you are a single father or mother, if your person of interest doesn't understand, or grasp the importance of your children, or simply not like children... Tell'em to kick rocks.
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Until it happens, just be content with it all.