Maybe my memories are getting cloudy with age but all this talk about how it is Soooh hard to be a single parent; weather it is a single Mom or Dad, is getting on my last nerve just a wee bit.
When you make the choice to have sex and then have a child, granted the women have a few more options in utero than men do most reasonable functioning adults know the end result is going to make you a parent. Maybe that is the first roll in the hay maybe some later escapade but it is hardly a surprise. And it is something any reasonable adult should be prepared for. Parenting is not rocket science. Kids are not that different from adults and most of our kids are very much like us. Sometimes Waaaay toooo much like us. lol. You still just have to meet their needs that are not all that different than our own. And less face it kids are a lot more to the point about telling what they want/need.
What I don't get is feeling like taking care of your own offspring as and independent adult should come as such a shock. Especially when what is the number somewhere near half that end up doing it solo. NONE past the advent of birth control can really say it was forced on them.
AND Don't all of you get a tremendous amount of love and happiness out of raising your kids? Personally I enjoyed the heck out of it. I don't get it is such a hardship either. I rather enjoyed being a parent when I was a parent and I can't figure out what all the belly aching is about.
In the real world don't you have to have a home, have food, have transportation, belong in a community to feel normal? I found kids made it just that much easier. And a whole less lonely. My kids motivated the heck out of me. And to be honest entertained me with the constant changes and challenges and just pure kid things they do every day. Yea they sometimes made me tired but it was a good tired.
And while I hardly think I would claim that being a parent is the only thing that gives me value as a human being it sure as heck beats out a lot of the other stuff I have done.
That as a single parent I get to take credit, by majority, for the awesome creations my kids are doesn't hurt my feelings a bit.
But really I don't think I deserve any medals for being a parent single or other wise. Don't see being a male parent anymore or less heroic. It was a privilege.
Edited by
PacificStar48
on Tue 05/19/15 01:18 PM