The subject came up in another thread: it seems like men 45- 52 aren't interested in women their own age, 45-52?
I get a lot of interest from men but they're either younger or older than me. I hardly get any interest from men my own age and I'm beginning to wonder why. Are men 45-52 really going through this penopausal phase?
Women in their forties (usually) are at their sexual peak, feel good about themselves, their bodies, life and so on. Basically all the stuff that make younger men like them. But what about men of approx 45-52?
Men approx 38-43 still seem to be full of life, but then they suddenly they seem to disappear of the grid? What the heck happens to them?
Sure I could go for a man some 5-7 years older, but often men that age seem to have lost their zest, the lust for life. (Why???)
I know I'm generalizing here, it's no as black and white as I put it. But the tendency definitely IS true.
Anyone who can shed a light on this?
Going by my own experience I found women in their 40s were more difficult to please. Obviously, a generality and anecdotal but both sexes appear to think they are more important than they actually are. During that time period most people are well established in life. They have obtained the lifestyle they sought. Career, health, finances….life has never been better so they think they’re “pretty damn good” and they want what they want, no compromise. They must be “special” because they’ve got exactly what they wanted. Of course, most people have got what they’ve wanted by that age so they aren’t so special. Again, generally speaking.
Also,there’s Isaac_dede’s post.
While I'm not that age yet I read a book recently that may ring true in certain aspects and possibly explain this phenomenon.
The book was called "The married Guy's sex life primer" it is by Athol Kay(he has a blog too, actually it think it started as a blog, but I digress)
In this book he talks about Sex Rank and the differences between men and woman, He states that it is pretty easy to figure out a woman's Sex Rank by just holding up a picture of her in a room to a group of guys and they will rate her based on looks, whatever that average is will be Her Sex Rank, so let's say she is a 7.
However, in order to figure out a man's Sex Rank the women would need to see more than a picture, something closer to a resume, Job Title, Salary, Has he been married, Is he good with Kids...and so on, based on these types of Questions, the woman than rate the Man's Sex Rank. So Let's say this guy is a 7 as well.
He then states that people of the same Sex Rank tend to pair of with each other, So as you can see by this example, A woman's sex rank, if just based on looks alone will decrease over time, while a Man's Sex rank can actually increase over time, Say he get's a better Job, Higher Salary, Get's in better shape, or any number of things, So let's say the Man is now an 8, however, he may see woman his own age as 7's, So he may look for a younger woman who he considers to be 8's or even 9's, he never had a shot at them before when he was a 7, but now that he is an 8 they are paying attention and he drops the 7.
Of course there are things that each sex can do to up their sex rank, However, it is going to a take a knockout 40yr old, to be equal to an average 20yr old woman. There is biology behind this as well, but that's a whole other chapter lol.
As Isaac_dede states a woman in her forties has a tough time competing with those considerably younger. If “looks” is a man’s priority he will choose a younger gal. If “looks” is not the only priority the man will choose an older lady as the older lady will have to have something more to offer. Also, they are more “accepting”.
When it comes to younger women if they are solely interested in “looks” they will choose a man around their own age. If they are seeking a more established man they will choose a man who appreciates them more and not one with a tone of arrogance.
Again, just my experience
Sounds like it's a tit for tat game, which as far as I'm concerned it isn't.
