Topic: Lonely Single Parents
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PacificStar48

Sun 05/17/15 09:38 PM


I look on sites, tell the world im here, but no one wants a father of 5 kids, i dont blame them really lol, but apart from sites, i pass my time by creating music and playing games (gees that sounds boring lol)


No for the right person that will sound just fine.

I know it sounds incredible but there are people who have larger families and are happy as peas in a pod. We knew many and there are organizations and churches that seem to attract larger families.

I actually only had one (lol sprung from my loins) but over the years the extras passed in and out our doors and it was not rare at all to have seven around since that was the "allowed" number as a foster home. Often even that was waiverd for a special needs kid. It was the standing joke to count noses and check if it matched the number signed in. Because our brood was so fluid the people at the commissary got where they just waived us in like the line of ducks we seem to be. Thank God we were on the neighborhood hand me down list or I would have never kept them all in school clothes, play clothes, and pajamas.
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JaciGrl

Sat 07/18/15 02:07 PM

I hear you about babysitters. I dont date unless daughter at her dads. I cant afford a babysitter and refuse to get a babysitter just for a date when can wait till a weekend......im content being at home with my daughter. Even at night....its when shes gone im lonely especially at night :-( online does help. Hanging with friends too. I usually watch tons of comedy ovies until i pass out to avoid being sad at night
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mom333

Sun 07/19/15 09:04 AM

I went out today with the kids and my daughter looked upset and I asked her what was wrong, she said its boring when its just us. what am I supposed to do with that I feel so bad for her.
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AJBulldog

Tue 07/21/15 10:10 AM

I get it.. I'm not lonely when I have my boys. It's when I don't have them that I can't seem to figure anything out
Edited by AJBulldog on Tue 07/21/15 10:10 AM
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RAISINGmy7KIDS

Tue 09/15/15 12:44 AM

I'm a single dad raising my 7 kidsbmyself.after 17years,my wife gothoked on alot of drugs and just left us to run the streets,then she moves across the U.S.
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SM8

Tue 09/15/15 06:27 AM


I'm a single dad raising my 7 kidsbmyself.after 17years,my wife gothoked on alot of drugs and just left us to run the streets,then she moves across the U.S.


Sounds like your busy with lots of responsibilities.
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no1phD

Tue 09/15/15 07:56 AM

For myself! on those rare occasions I do not have my boys.. I do a little happy dance.. free free at last..:banana: :banana: .. I think we all get lonely parents and single people without kids.. it's part of life at some point you are going to be alone.. I enjoy the loneliness I immerse myself in it.. even relish it.. makes me appreciate the times I am NOT alone..
but quite honestly I very seldomly feel lonely.. because I am my best own company...And besides there's always something to keep me busy for instance dusting the light bulbs they're not going to dust themselves you knowlaugh


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SitkaRains

Tue 09/15/15 08:08 AM

^^^^^^ I am like No1 when I was raising my kids and yes I was alone through those years, I rarely had time to decide if I was lonely or not.
And those rare occasions that I did have time alone I was in ecstasy and would almost waste the time trying to figure out what I wanted to do that day.

I have to say I have rarely been lonely in my life. There has always been to much to do and not enough hours in a day to get it all done.
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Annierooroo

Tue 09/15/15 08:20 AM

Lol I would make sure all my jobs were done before the kids left so I could enjoy my alone time.
I would end up sitting there thinking wow this is boring what am I going to do?
I would go and look for jobs to do. Yeah I know I was sad.
I hated being without my kids.
When they went to camp for a week. By the second day it was like nah I want my kids home but then by the end of the week I was like oh my the kids are coming home man I want to do this or that what happened to my time? What have I done all week.
Lol
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no1phD

Tue 09/15/15 08:29 AM


^^^^^^ I am like No1 when I was raising my kids and yes
.. oh so you lock your kids in the closet TO.. so you must also make them stick their scrawny little arms up inside the vending machine to snatch the chocolate bars.. do you also use yours to go up to young attractive single people and have them pretend that they are lost.. and then you show up and thank the young attractive person for being so considerate and helpful.. basically using your children for an excuse to talk to them.. good to know I thought I was the only onelaugh happy .. we are alike you and Irofl :tongue: laugh drinker
Edited by no1phD on Tue 09/15/15 08:31 AM
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SitkaRains

Tue 09/15/15 10:46 AM



^^^^^^ I am like No1 when I was raising my kids and yes
.. oh so you lock your kids in the closet TO.. so you must also make them stick their scrawny little arms up inside the vending machine to snatch the chocolate bars.. do you also use yours to go up to young attractive single people and have them pretend that they are lost.. and then you show up and thank the young attractive person for being so considerate and helpful.. basically using your children for an excuse to talk to them.. good to know I thought I was the only onelaugh happy .. we are alike you and Irofl :tongue: laugh drinker

I wouldn't go quite this far. I have been thankful when they would go to their rooms to study...
I did socialize more with parents that my kids were involved with their kids..

Now sticking their little arms up the vending machines..nope I have little arms..laugh
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PacificStar48

Wed 09/16/15 05:53 PM

Net working with other " Single Exceptional Parents" is much easier than it sounds.

Space will often be provided free if you ask a local pediatric hospital to allow you to use a small conference room near their food service area either at Lunch or the standard supper hour weekly for a year. Be a good guest and take a roll of paper towels and trash bags so you don't leave any messes. Offer a certificate of appreciation to the hospital board.

Weekly is important because you get people into the habit that one night a week is the stop in meeting your membership will grow faster than trying to wait for a biweekly meeting or a whole month to roll around. Doing it weekly you can usually find volunteers to host one week a month and often show up at least 75% of the time. The habit is what helps. If you print a door hanger on card stock and make sure you tell the information desk people will find you easier.

Eating a snack or getting a beverage at the hospital cafeteria is less expensive than a restaurant and if you get people in the habit of bringing "brown bag" it often develops into pot luck if you tell them to bring a covered divided plate and drink bottle. Just be sure you keep a small rolling suitcase for your Sign in notebook for those who wish to give an address or email. Which can be great for sending out Newsletter announcements of things members bring into share.

Have a donation jar for paying for the Chapter PO.Box so you can have lots of free materials sent for the group and continuity when after a year someone else serves as Leader, Secretary, and Treasure. This keeps anyone from having to use their private address and phone. Later if you get rolling you can buy a cheap prepaid phone.

Make a three fold explanation to hand out to parents and others such as the Interfaith Council, the police department (they have a lot of special needs kids on their toy lists), and EMT services. Most exceptional parent are on a first name basis with their EMT service.

Then you tell the local 311 line and the schools and other groups (examples; Autism society, Spina Bifida, Association of Retarded citizens) ,parks and recreation, Special education teachers,and so on. If each member tells one group the word will spread.
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ais69

Wed 09/16/15 06:02 PM

I join Mingle2 and hang out with all you lovely fellows
happy happy happy
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RAISINGmy7KIDS

Wed 09/23/15 04:37 PM

with seven kids,raising them alone,no te to be lonely, but at times horney.
.lol..
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RAISINGmy7KIDS

Wed 09/23/15 04:43 PM

yes,always busy,five boys(2,4,5,9,&16) and two girls (8&13)
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RAISINGmy7KIDS

Wed 09/23/15 04:44 PM

would u believe there all me and all have the same mom!
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PacificStar48

Wed 10/14/15 06:12 PM

I did not check out the work at home site but I would STRONGLY recommend single parents to be VERY Careful about the idea because it can often slide into major problems both financially and for security. And some of these companies have aggressive tactics and will get court judgments to take your assets. If you mess up on your taxes the IRS can be even more aggressive attaching your income.
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Annierooroo

Thu 10/15/15 04:14 AM


yes,always busy,five boys(2,4,5,9,&16) and two girls (8&13)


Wow that's a lot of kids.
5 boys. You have your hands full.
Toddlers to teenagers.
I don't know how you do it.
Myself coming from a big family I always thought I would only have two but ended with 3. No more after that.
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babb1618

Sat 10/17/15 02:07 PM

that's good hold on
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Trilitra111

Sat 10/17/15 02:27 PM

I am full time dad and the only time for self is when the child is sleeping. I do a physical exercises on my tippy toes to get unwind a bit. Otherwise it is very very hard to stay sane.