I have teenage kids and all they wanna do Is be on there phones

If they are mean to you or totally disrespect you then take away the phones and make them work to get them back. Just because they are teens does not mean they can treat you bad so take charge and start emptying their rooms. You will soon see the change in them as soon as they know who is the boss. :)

Kids need consistancy. Asking them to get off the phone & telling them to do it & taking the phones away are3 different things.

Maybe , take the phoneaway...so that they learn, Mom means business & only give them back at certain times (like when they are out of the house).

Other wise, they see you as a push over & believe they are entitled to material objects instead of you giving them what they eared.

Hope this helps, good luck.

as long as it does not interfere with other things they need to be doing I see no problem with it. I was on the phone all the time when I was young - to my friends...blah blah blah....what are you doing Saturday...did you see this new movie.....did so and so get a new motorcycle....and on and on ad nauseum lol

but I still had to clean my room and have the nightly family outing and such.

Incentives are a good idea, if you react with punishment it will set up a whole sea of other problems because they really aren't doing anything wrong (most likely)

respect is a 2 way street

But at your age & mine, we weren't walking around, room to room carrying a smart phone, etc..
We actually had to learn to communicatate & have respect & earn trust & privileges.

What specifically is occuring?
Are they not doing homework and on the phone?are they ignoring bedtime and on phone?bringing phone to dinner table?ignoring you when on phone?

..i feel.. your pain..lol..

.. that reminds me I need to change my ringtone now..too.. I bet you wish your girlfriend was hot like me...yes yes i do wow..

there's always a but....which means you are looking at the conflict rather than a solution, or at least that is the impression

not having a smart phone didn't stop me from being on the phone lol.

If someone provides a young person with a smartphone, then I would assume they would also provide ground rules if ground rules were important to them. If you need to speak with someone (or want to) when they are on the phone, simply ask them to close up what they are doing and come to the table.

no, we did not have smart phones, but we did other things....I think my parent's had a talent for choosing their battles wisely. Here's hoping I inherited a little of that :)

exactly

let's weigh this out

smart phone...in the street with knives
smart phone.....smacking around kids in school
smart phone....hangin out at the pool hall with Fast Eddie
smart phone....best known dealer on the playground


gimme the smartphone and a no phones at the dinner table limit any day...

Think creative
I text them if I want them to do something.
I know it's not good but I play their game. Take photos of their rooms when in a mess and threaten to put in on Facebook lol.
I have great conversations with my kids yet still enjoy peace and quiet lol and if you don't want to answer you don't have to lol