Do Men Really READ the profiles ???
OK, I am just looking at the dating pool. My profile is perhaps rather negative, in that I am NOT looking to 'hookup' - just viewing the pool candidates..
The comments of emails I receive, it is pretty obvious to me that my profile is NOT being read at all, as the comments in their emails reference what a nice profile it is, etc... are you kidding me?did you read it???
Or are they just MANREADING it?
Manreading - look at the pictures and carry on anyway..
Hints about scammers would be appreciated..
Kat
Some Do, Some Don't
Personally I read profiles in a very specific way.
1. The picture must appeal to me.
If I like the picture and it appears to be genuine it is a plus.
One commenter suggested that full body pics are a must to determine obesity. I do not limit my interests over their size. I have known many big bodied women that are healthy and kind. I have also known many slim women that are cruel and mean. The picture gets me interested but sometimes I continue reading even when no picture is posted.
2. I scan the stats. When the stats don't match what I seek, I move along. If they are within my matching guidelines I read their summary.
3. I look for specific things in their summary that inform me as to their nature. I look for both good indicators and bad indicators. I compare what they list as interests against what they say in the summary. If it does nothing more than repeat the same info, I move along. If it supports that info and gives a clarity of their interests I keep reading. Summaries that are written to inform potential matches why they should be contacted have more meaning to me than ones written to inform me about what she does not want.
4. Finally, I review my reason for viewing her profile. I may google her location to see if meeting IRL is a possibility. If her location is far or her stats don't match my limits, I might be viewing because I am interested in knowing her from something she posted in the forums.
I have time to read profiles. To me, finding the right someone is very important. Other men, without the time to leisurely read profiles, may make quick assessments and proceed surely.
I've talked with enough women on dating sites to understand that they get a lot of very bad attention from some men. It restricts what they say and show in their profiles.
If I am excited about a specific profile I tend to shoot them a message. I try to relate to something they shared with a similar thing from my own life. I come out and ask for them to reply. I offer up a fragment of myself to them with a related question or two.
I also look at and read any profile of someone that views me. I determine if I should contact them based on the same inputs as above but I hesitate because they have only viewed me but have not messaged me. They may be just curious.
If I see the same woman viewing my profile over and over again there is a chance she may be interested but doesn't know how to initiate personal contact. I message and ask.