Topic: Looking for other single parents with special needs kids ..
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Sweetshortie_jess

Sun 09/27/15 10:30 PM

I think it's hard to date as a single parent..but when u thro in the special needs.. Everything becomes more complicated...no one can understand that but parents in our positions ..
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Annierooroo

Sun 09/27/15 10:32 PM

Hi Sweet
I don't have a special needs child so as a parent I don't know what you are going through but I have been a teacher aid to a few of them.
I hope you find others that you can chat with.
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SM8

Mon 09/28/15 06:44 AM

Hey good morning

My youngest had a Community Living Worker for a few years and visited the Niagara Children's Centre a few times for speech and occupational therapy, he also has migrains . My oldest is on an IEP program and has had some speech therapy as well occupational therapy .

What special needs does your child have?

My oldest has mild Central Auditory Processing Disorder


http://kidshealth.org/parent/classroom/factsheet/APD-factsheet.html?tracking=P_RelatedArticle

What Teachers Should Know

Students with auditory processing disorder (APD) can't process the information they hear in the same way as others because their ears and brain don't fully coordinate.

Kids with APD often have difficulty recognizing subtle differences between sounds in spoken words, even when the sounds are loud and clear enough to be heard. This usually happens when there's background noise, like in a typical classroom. In addition, loud or sudden noises can easily distract or bother students with APD.

Kids with APD, which is also known as central auditory processing disorder (CAPD), have normal hearing. APD may be confused with certain learning disabilities or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), though it is also possible to have APD as well as language impairments, learning disabilities, or ADHD.

Five main problem areas can affect students with APD:
1.Auditory figure-ground problems: when a child can't pay attention if there's noise in the background. Noisy, low-structured classrooms can be very frustrating.

2.Auditory memory problems: when a child has difficulty remembering information such as directions, lists, or study materials. It can be immediate ("I can't remember it now") and/or delayed ("I can't remember it when I need it for later").

3.Auditory discrimination problems: when a child has difficulty hearing the difference between similar words or sounds (COAT/BOAT or CH/SH). This can affect following directions, reading, spelling, and writing.

4.Auditory attention problems: when a child can't stay focused on listening long enough to complete a task or requirement, such as listening to a teacher in class.

5.Auditory cohesion problems: when higher-level listening tasks are difficult. Auditory cohesion skills — drawing inferences from conversations, understanding riddles, or comprehending verbal math problems — require heightened auditory processing and language levels. They develop best when all the other skills (levels 1 through 4 above) are intact.

If the auditory deficits aren't identified and managed, many students with APD will face academic challenges.

Students with APD can benefit from working with a speech and language therapist, in addition to getting regular evaluations by audiologists.

What Teachers Can Do

It's important to understand that APD is an auditory issue and not a cognitive, speech, or language disorder. Your student may feel embarrassed to let you know he or she did not understand what you said or directions you gave.

Speaking clearly, making sure students with APD write down the assignments, and helping them stay organized may ease their frustration and boost their self-esteem in the classroom.

Teachers also can help students with APD by:
•reducing background noise, when possible

•having them sit in the front of the class or near you to hear better

•encouraging use of assistive devices in class, such as a personal FM system

•having them take tests or work on assignments in an area away from distractions

Reviewed by: Mary L. Gavin, MD
Date reviewed: May 2014

Edited by SM8 on Mon 09/28/15 06:45 AM
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PacificStar48

Mon 09/28/15 03:22 PM

Welcome to Mingle. You will find there are many great Single parents here who are also "Exceptional" parents or in other words have a child with Special Needs. And lots of supportive "other's".

I would encourage you to read through old threads and hopefully make friends. Many are very helpful and encourage you until you get your "sea leg's" at this version of parenting.

I can tell you as a parent of a very challenging child it does not prevent you from meeting legit people and finding a mate. With or with out children or special needs children. Many people see little or no difference in parenting someone else's child that has special needs than if they had a child of their own. And if you don't try to deny it the ones that do just fade away and you don't have to deal with them.

Does it take a little more planning for childcare so that you can have some adult time to date and develop a relationship? Sure. But at least with a special needs child there are case managers, respite care workers, and even specialized programs that allow Exceptional parents to network. And almost every Special needs person has advocates through disability specific organizations, and adapted summer camp programs.