if you already have a pre-conceived notion in your head
of what defines a stay at home mother..that they are evil, horrible, lazy, incompetent and chasing after a man to take over as daddy to their children..
then when you look around you will find examples to strengthen this belief
if on the other hand you think single mothers are strong, capable, hard working women who bring home bacon, fry it up in pan an do this without the help of a man
you will look around and find women that fit this definition also
The conclusion though is independent of womens strength the children are less provided for, receive less medical and prenatal care, lower class neighborhoods and schools, lack of cultural and educational, no male role models on a daily basis, poor socialization, dietary issues, weight issues (average woman is a size 14 that obese by medical standards and how does that impact the soon to be plump children who learn their eating habits from watching and being fed by obese mothers) ( check a 1000 women here and see if more than 70% are obese ( don't let the facts interfere with your wishful thinking and rationalizations about single parenting so people can feel good independent of their actual less than adequate level of care....EX Do you know the percentage of kids who go to bed hungry? How about health issues dental issues, not addressed due to insufficient care and funds...
I don't know where you get your information about Single Mother's but your sweeping generalizations do not define the single parents I know or me. My children consistently received the best medical care available in the world, they went to and graduated from one of the best college preparatory schools in the country, went on to college, and lucrative careers, are homeowners, and despite your premise that they had less cultural or socialization is just glaringly wrong. They have manners and understanding that have allowed them to compete widely across class lines and in a number of cultures. They all speak at least two languages and two actually more. They have also had some of the most successful men in America as role models and mentors in and out of the home so having one dad living in as optimum in their life is a misnomer also.
I bet if you compared almost any two parent family against mine; my child has better social skills, has a better "record" of accomplishment, has better health, and I guarantee you better nutrition than 95% regardless, of my income (which has very little to do with nutrition but the ability and willingness of the parent to cook (something the affluent often can not/will not do.) And my children are definitely not obese. Probably run most of their peers into the ground past and present physically and intellectually.
The failed prejudice that money is the only measure of parenting is elitist at best and just wrong at worst. I have never had a lot of money but my children have had all the major markers of family life from travel, to holidays, to religious and cultural exposure from sports to the arts.
Sorry it sounds like You have unfortunately been brainwashed by the bigoted media, limited in person exposure, or your own inaccurate raising.
Edited by
PacificStar48
on Sat 03/05/16 04:44 PM