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Topic: What Makes You Lose Respect For Someone?
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no1phD

Thu 05/05/16 08:51 PM


Yup, did that when I gav birth:)) Twice haha..:laughing:
see !that's what makesyou women so strong..if it wear me I wouldbe screaming..at the top of my lungs.....GET IT OUT OF ME NOWWWWW..LOL
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graygentleman

Fri 05/06/16 04:25 AM

You will loose my respect and loyalty for several reasons as I am a very loyal and trustworthy person.

1. If you don't give respect back... Since I treat everyone with respect and dignity to start with
2. If you don't come clean with a lie and eventually I will figure it out.
3. If you throw me under the bus...cause I will admit when wrong honestly..but won't call out others
4. When you talk about a problem or about me and don't talk to me first...I cannot learn or improve if I don't know about it.
5. If you cause harm to someone that has my loyalty.
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soufiehere

Fri 05/06/16 08:05 AM

Name-calling.
A sorry sign of insecurity and stupidity.
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Unknow

Fri 05/06/16 11:27 AM


Name-calling.
A sorry sign of insecurity and stupidity.


I couldnt agree with you more soufie. It is so juvenile that it makes me cringe when I hear it coming from adults.

And when it comes from a Politician...

I feel numb with shame indifferent
Edited by Unknow on Fri 05/06/16 11:29 AM
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mohankumar101

Fri 05/06/16 11:43 AM

Liking a person can happen with a lot of things. With physique, behavior, surroundings and a lot more. Respect comes when a person who does something that majority of the society wants to practice, but couldn't do for some reasons, such as compassion. Respect for ronaldinho in football world is something he earned in his life with the way he played games with compassion. His arrogant opponents respect him and I believe he earned it.
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Unknow

Fri 05/06/16 09:11 PM


You will loose my respect and loyalty for several reasons as I am a very loyal and trustworthy person.

1. If you don't give respect back... Since I treat everyone with respect and dignity to start with
2. If you don't come clean with a lie and eventually I will figure it out.
3. If you throw me under the bus...cause I will admit when wrong honestly..but won't call out others
4. When you talk about a problem or about me and don't talk to me first...I cannot learn or improve if I don't know about it.
5. If you cause harm to someone that has my loyalty.


It's so interesting Graygentleman that most of the conditions you cited, are theoretically what should be basic adult behavior, and yet so many adults fail to exhibit it. I fully agree with you :thumbsup:
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Still_Here_4_U

Fri 05/06/16 09:16 PM



First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics.

Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all.


Hi twinwaving

The interesting thing about respect displayed in the work place is that it is often motivated by fear of losing one's job or missing out on a promotion or fringe benefits.

But what happens in our regular relationships where fear is removed?

And what are some of the moral values a person could disregard , which would make you disrespect that person?


Excellent point made regarding workplace fear. As far relationships, if a person does not have much of a "backbone" or opinion and that person always wants to be a pleaser... Than I can't say I would not respect the person, however I could not trust that they have true intentions.

I hope I'm clear.
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Unknow

Fri 05/06/16 09:22 PM


Liking a person can happen with a lot of things. With physique, behavior, surroundings and a lot more. Respect comes when a person who does something that majority of the society wants to practice, but couldn't do for some reasons, such as compassion. Respect for ronaldinho in football world is something he earned in his life with the way he played games with compassion. His arrogant opponents respect him and I believe he earned it.


Well I agree with you Mohan that in the example you mentioned, people can respect your talent but it doesn't always mean that they respect your character. Welcome to the forum Mohan :)
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Unknow

Fri 05/06/16 09:27 PM




First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics.

Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all.


Hi twinwaving

The interesting thing about respect displayed in the work place is that it is often motivated by fear of losing one's job or missing out on a promotion or fringe benefits.

But what happens in our regular relationships where fear is removed?

And what are some of the moral values a person could disregard , which would make you disrespect that person?


Excellent point made regarding workplace fear. As far relationships, if a person does not have much of a "backbone" or opinion and that person always wants to be a pleaser... Than I can't say I would not respect the person, however I could not trust that they have true intentions.

I hope I'm clear.


I do understand Still here4 you :)

And I do agree with you that it's hard to trust the word of a people-pleaser in the work place. Welcome to the forum !
Edited by Unknow on Fri 05/06/16 09:29 PM
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Still_Here_4_U

Fri 05/06/16 10:15 PM





First question : The Difference between liking a person versus respecting is prominent in workplace environment. Yo may not like your boss or your colleague but you must respect them for who they are and for their position in the institution, that is Professional Ethics.

Second: I will only lose respect for a person who also loses his self-respect, self-dignity and self-pride. If he trashes out the good moral principles of life then he is a trash himself and undeserving of any respect. if he is a deserter and left his comrades to die which is more shameful than death then he is not deserving of any honor nor any bit of respect at all.


Hi twinwaving

The interesting thing about respect displayed in the work place is that it is often motivated by fear of losing one's job or missing out on a promotion or fringe benefits.

But what happens in our regular relationships where fear is removed?

And what are some of the moral values a person could disregard , which would make you disrespect that person?


Excellent point made regarding workplace fear. As far relationships, if a person does not have much of a "backbone" or opinion and that person always wants to be a pleaser... Than I can't say I would not respect the person, however I could not trust that they have true intentions.

I hope I'm clear.


I do understand Still here4 you :)

And I do agree with you that it's hard to trust the word of a people-pleaser in the work place. Welcome to the forum !


Thank you :)
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mohankumar101

Sat 05/07/16 01:47 AM

I don't know if I didn't make it clear. Let me rephrase it again. It's not about talent, but compassion that earns respect according to me. And a person who has that quality would not let anyone down, wouldn't hurt, would be an ideal inspiration essentially all good qualities necessary to earn respect :smiley:
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Unknow

Sat 05/07/16 05:25 PM


I don't know if I didn't make it clear. Let me rephrase it again. It's not about talent, but compassion that earns respect according to me. And a person who has that quality would not let anyone down, wouldn't hurt, would be an ideal inspiration essentially all good qualities necessary to earn respect :smiley:



I respect compassion in a person as well Mohan :thumbsup:
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Tobyash

Tue 06/28/16 09:47 AM


Lying is one of those things that makes me lose respect.

Berating children in public is another thing.

Crap, I forgot....mistreatment of animal companions pisses me off and makes me lose respect.

I can't really answer the 1st question. Usually I like someone I respect. When my respect is lost, so is the like or love.


The difference is, friend and relationship:
If you have a friend you like, you automatically respect them and share common thoughts, when your in a relationship, the difference is, this person is bound to your heart, so to like them is one but respect is high.
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Tobyash

Tue 06/28/16 09:53 AM


You will loose my respect and loyalty for several reasons as I am a very loyal and trustworthy person.

1. If you don't give respect back... Since I treat everyone with respect and dignity to start with
2. If you don't come clean with a lie and eventually I will figure it out.
3. If you throw me under the bus...cause I will admit when wrong honestly..but won't call out others
4. When you talk about a problem or about me and don't talk to me first...I cannot learn or improve if I don't know about it.
5. If you cause harm to someone that has my loyalty.


These are all human error and everyday code of conduct/behaviour . Another point to the fourth quote. Sometimes we get talked about by out loved ones and after hearing about it, over a period of time learn to forgive and move on, this is due to the fact that you love the person and the respect is high.
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msharmony

Tue 06/28/16 05:33 PM

maybe like is more directly linked to having our own needs met or values reciprocated by another

but respect, is being able to admire anothers ability to handle their own needs and express their own values , and how they treat others besides us
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dcastelmissy

Tue 06/28/16 06:13 PM

Hypocrisy!!!
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RustyKitty

Tue 06/28/16 07:00 PM


Name-calling.
A sorry sign of insecurity and stupidity.

and immaturity
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Valeris

Tue 06/28/16 10:03 PM

boring, ignorant, insincere, narcissists who demand respect for convictions that they are unable to support by reason.



Opps! Is That considered: "Name-Calling"?
:laughing:
Edited by Valeris on Tue 06/28/16 10:55 PM
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Gu3dinho

Wed 06/29/16 01:53 PM

Good morning Peggy.
The thing with respect is, you both have to respect each other, and the love is just there. If one or the other doesn't treat the other one with respect, you will not be attracted to them. The same goes for a marriage. It takes two. Commitment fits in there also. marriage takes alot of work to be happy. It all falls back on trust. That is the glue to a successful marriage.
I hope I answered your question Peggy

Michael


:banana: good one