So yeah, my girlfriend of two years left me three months ago to go back to her ex-husband. They have two kids together and are separated for nine years! I have two kids also but I'm divorced. Here is my situation that I need help with. For two years when we were together I was on cloud nine, both of us. It was great I would sleep over her house four, five, six nights a week. Love was in our hearts and happiness was through the roof. Her kids and my kids got along great, My family loved her, her Family loved me. So I go on a business trip for four days and I come back and she tells me her and her ex have been talking and they're going to try to reconcile for the benefit of the kids, they deserve to see and have the family/ parents together. Her kids are 9 & 11. I said are you kidding me? Your ex-husband physically abused you when you were married to him, wasn't there in the hospital when you gave birth to either one of your kids because he was out doing drugs. He was a big drug head, cost your family $40,000 because he told the town you had an illegal basement apartment after you left him. And your family got hit with a 40k fine. How in the world can you give this guy another chance? Oh and they did try to reconcile one time within the nine years and guess what happened… he beat her then also.... so somebody tell me what in the world is going on? Because I still have strong feelings for her, let's be honest I still love her… I tried to go and speak to her so I could hear it straight from her mouth rather than over text and she she was crying to me and hugging me and saying she sorry but she thinks it's the right decision for her children. I don't understand it hence the reason why I'm divorced and not separated. There is a heck of a lot more to the story but it's been three months since we haven't been together and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of her and miss her. I'm respecting her and not contacting her since but it kills me every day.
Sorry for venting
I went through the same time one time but we were more friends then in love, but we did live together...
He told me that he wanted to see his ex-wife to see what was there between them, but he wanted me to stay living there and our relationship the same...
I told him if that was what he wanted to do that was fine and if they could make it work I would be very happy for him... But that he couldn't take how we got along and think that would be the same for them... I was a very different person then she was and they still
had to take care of the problems they had to make them split up...
I gave him a few days to make that decision because I told him I wouldn't be staying there if he wanted to go date his wife and I also told him that I wasn't going to be sitting on the side lines waiting to see how it went.... And if it turned out not to work between them and he wanted to see if I would move back in with him..... that was probably not going to happen....
My advice wish her well and move on.... but in the end you have to do what's best for you
Oh and by the way the man I was just telling you about.... decided not to date his wife, I stayed with him and we got married a year later..... Only death took him from me.....
Good luck what ever you decide..