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Beachfarmer

Wed 04/26/17 05:17 AM

Familiarity

I have a little crush on my local morning newscaster (she's actually really Hot...*Google Britt Moreno*)..but she's not my first.

My friend likes the Weather Guy. She says he's "Geeky Cool".

Does comfort, routine, and familiarity breed attraction?
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Pinkbunny43

Wed 04/26/17 05:30 AM

I think so, we've all had a crush at some point during our school years on one of our teachers.
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Scoobert

Wed 04/26/17 05:45 AM

I think it can increase the attraction that was already created.
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joethebricky

Wed 04/26/17 05:53 AM

'This will probably be quick'

My exact statement to every woman I've ever made love too.
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Beachfarmer

Wed 04/26/17 05:58 AM


'This will probably be quick'

My exact statement to every woman I've ever made love too.


Even MY routine is familiar ohwell
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Wed 04/26/17 06:33 AM

I don't think it's familiarity so much as noticing their personality, liking the way they carry themselves.
I've noticed that with Robbie Williams. Most women were -and are- swooning over him. I just raised my eyebrow thinking, what's the fuss all about?
But then I saw the way he carries himself and bloody 'ell, he's hot! Ever since I've been swooning with the rest of womanhood in Western Europe, haha.

I remember a similar thing with a guy in my class way back when. Tall, lanky, far from physically attractive to be honest.
But the way he carried himself, dang. The guy was as confident as if he were Adonis himself. I fell totally head over heels in love with him.
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Beachfarmer

Wed 04/26/17 06:54 AM

That's so true Crystal!
Sometimes it's for irreverence.
People love comedians.

I have a friend who loves Dennis Leary..
..such an obnoxious Boston D!CK! (I admire the Dude too though lol)

There is something about Sarah Silverman (also obnoxious) and her fearlessness that turns me on. (She's attractive but not not traditionally magazine material)

(Not sure if you know these comedians)
Edited by Beachfarmer on Wed 04/26/17 06:55 AM
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ciretom

Wed 04/26/17 07:04 AM

This Will Probably Be Quick

That's what she said.

Does comfort, routine, and familiarity breed attraction?

It can.
You make choices based on available alternatives.
You rationalize what your alternatives are.
What you think they are, what you wish they are, what you hope they are, what you fear they are, how much effort you want to put forth.

Other than that, anything you actually feel can be used to breed anything else you want to feel.

Emotions are ultimately motivators for behavior with feelings a bench mark to reward or penalize you for your choice of behavior with experience through your conscious personality training what emotional/feeling association should be with what in a reciprocating cycle.

IOW comfort, routine, and familiarity can breed attraction, fear of relationships (or overvalued ego, or hatred of eggs, anything) can breed seeking out certain lifestyles that breed types of comfort, routine, and familiarity, which reward associating/developing attraction to untenable and unrealistic people.
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Beachfarmer

Wed 04/26/17 07:09 AM

Some people even like compartmentilizers.
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Wed 04/26/17 07:12 AM


That's so true Crystal!
Sometimes it's for irreverence.
People love comedians.

I have a friend who loves Dennis Leary..
..such an obnoxious Boston D!CK! (I admire the Dude too though lol)

There is something about Sarah Silverman (also obnoxious) and her fearlessness that turns me on. (She's attractive but not not traditionally magazine material)

(Not sure if you know these comedians)

Denis Leary?! love I think in his case mostly again that aura. That self-confidence. Arrogant MoFo, lol.
Don't know him well, seen a few clips of him a while back.

Sarah Silverman, yes, an odd one. Don't know where I know her from, but she's weird. Somehow she's attractive and somehow she's not at all.
Kind of the other way round, she physically is attractive, but her aura is off-putting (to me).

Denis Leary... dang, did you have to mention him? Lol
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Beachfarmer

Wed 04/26/17 07:20 AM

Lol Crystal!
How about all those Canadian women swooning over the PM?
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Wed 04/26/17 07:46 AM

Eeewww... spank you very much! He looks too French. (Funny how you can tell right away, isn't it). The French don't float my boat.
Isn't he gay? Lol... No matter how well he carries himself, I doubt I'd come to find him attractive
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Beachfarmer

Wed 04/26/17 07:51 AM

rofl

That strong opinionated "Dutch Thing" is SO HOT!love laugh
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Wed 04/26/17 09:15 AM


rofl

That strong opinionated "Dutch Thing" is SO HOT!love laugh

Hihi blushing :angel:
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soufiehere

Wed 04/26/17 09:24 AM


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Does comfort, routine, and familiarity breed attraction?

Those ads, at the top of the page?
I feel like I know those people by now.

I saw one (they must be pro's) on a totally different
ad and thought I knew the guy..no..I just see him
daily in ads :-)

No attraction..but familiarity.
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no1phD

Wed 04/26/17 09:47 AM

This will probably be quick?..
Things my date says to me..lol
Things I say to my date..lol
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lu_rosemary

Wed 04/26/17 07:57 PM

Does comfort, routine, and familiarity breed attraction?

1.Comfort
Yes.
For me it's always the same. I always feel good in my heart knowing the ones I love are safe and sound.
2.Routine
It can be boring or not.
3. Familiarity breed attraction?
Absolutely.







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technovative

Wed 04/26/17 08:23 PM


Sarah Silverman, yes, an odd one. Don't know where I know her from, but she's weird. Somehow she's attractive and somehow she's not at all.
Kind of the other way round, she physically is attractive, but her aura is off-putting (to me).


I agree with you about Sarah Silverman, Crystal. She's physically attractive, and I like some elements of her comedic style. That snark and arrogance would get on my nerves if I had to contend with it daily though.
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technovative

Wed 04/26/17 08:30 PM


Does comfort, routine, and familiarity breed attraction?


I think that routinely spending time in someones presence develops familiarity, leads to comfort, and likely will enhance attraction. But there has to be a little "je ne sais quoi" to begin with, or it's likely a non-starter.
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mzrosie

Wed 04/26/17 09:36 PM


Does comfort, routine, and familiarity breed attraction?


Yes this could be true if you have an attraction toward the person in the first place. If you are with the person day after day and the person has been a part of your routine, you enjoy their company, you laugh at the same jokes, and you look forward everyday to being with this person, then the attraction heightens and may develop into something else. Good example is someone you work with.

I watch Jimmy Fallon almost every night. He is funny and adorable and I enjoy watching his show as part of my nightly routine. Comfort, routine and familiarity are there but that's it. I don't it will ever breed attraction. Colin Firth, on the other hand, is a very attractive man and although I don't see him everyday, I have seen a number of his movies. Not part of my routine but, if by some miracle I would have a chance to kiss Colin Firth, I would kiss him and it would not matter one iota if he kissed me back. lol

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