I'm not really convinced about having my future husband have his best female friend as his best man only because if she's his "best friend" what am I?

IgorFrankensteen,

Hey welcome back......i just proved america is very liberal about a woman being a best man. 80 percent wouldnt mind. I wouldnt mind. One thing about my loyal " vocal avengers" is they tell it all. No holds barred.

Melodianne,
Welcome to my cyber mansion. Well i think if a man and woman have a strong security within them having a woman best man shouldn't be a threat. I know some females that have gay guys as bridesmaids. I'm totally for it. Its a new dawn of age. The new world we live in. Old tradition is out the window. They say we'll never have a black president we did. They say a female cant run a country...look at Angela Merkle in my native Germany. They say women cant be good at any sports look at female MMA, UFC, Basket ball& wrestling. They say a man could never marry another man. Guess what Obama signed the gay manifesto now same sex marriage is legal. They say marijuana is illegal. Think again...weed is now legal as long as its under 5 grams or medical only. So maybe one day a woman best man could happen.

EyeAmYourHost39,

Ladies, Ya'll came along way. One day when I do jump the broom, I think I will consider a female as my best man. my best friend Is Kayla a beautiful woman I been knowing half my life. Kayla is one of the guys to us. She wants to make sure I look good at the alter. She wants to make sure everything with me is good and I go thru the whole ceremony I hold it down. Right now its just fantasy but one day I want to make this a reality. You, know I think women would make the best preparers. You have emotion with style. Women will lets you know if your tie is wrong. Women will coordinate colors and make it work. Women, will give advice, & every once in a while they momma comes out " Okay, Make sure you get nothing on that suite"....lol I love you women for that.

Hi 38!

Anything is possible...but from a traditional point of view....no way. Blows away the Godfather probability. I know on this day, it popular to attack patriarchal formats. But wouldn't it be weird to a guy if another guy says, I'm gonna be your bride's maid! I'll be the one wearing a Tux!

No thank you.

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Hi EyeAm, for me personally, no way! I would not be okay with that in all honesty. And I'm not too keen on the stripper party either. Bachelor party, yes, just not having my man (when I have one) gawking at naked women. I will take care of that desire if he wishes.

To each his/her own for others who would be okay with this. And EyeAm, if your woman is okay with it, when the time comes, go for it.

Robxbox73,

Welcome back to my cyber mansion, well there are men brides maids, usually they gay friends of the bride. Its not common but it happens. Fars the god father theory, well think about it, that will be very different. very creative and nobody would expect that open mindness.

LOL, Gotta laugh at your idea that you are PROVING anything about America with any of your topics.

America is a big place with hundreds of millions of people all of which have individual opinions on any given subject.

Lets also consider that Mingle2 is comprised of world members that are not American. Thus your opinion base is flawed and your supposition unremarkable.

As for the best man thing?
Who cares except those concerned with the wedding and marriage?
I don't care if you even have a wedding. It means nothing to me.
I had a male best man.
My X had a female brides maid.
Whoppie ding?

Perhaps this is an attempt to understand gender roles in the current society. Which society? You seem to be basing Philadelphia city as the formation of a typical American society. Sorry to tell you, its not. Anything you 'Test' here or in your blog based on that limited view will have skewed results.

One thing that is for sure - you sure are entertaining.

PiscesMoon2,

Well hello, welcome to my cyber mansion. How about this I give you scenario, okay. Now suppose me as your fiancé and we both planning a creative wedding. You my wife to be and you may have your own ideals for who you want to invite, right. You invited you family, a few of your friends, and I would assume your best female friend will be your brides maid. Now, on my end, I invite my family, my friends, my work boss, some of my co-workers. But only this time I had my own plans on my best man. Okay I'm a man of compromise okay, no strippers just me and a few of my guys and 1 other person she's a girl. This girl not just one of the fellas but she going to be my best lady enjoying a drink, cigars, and shooting some pool. she's strictly plutonic, matter of fact she's involved with a stand up man. Would this change your mind?

Tom4UHere,

Welcome back...well...I like to think outside the box. Tap into that creative side & I like push buttons. see what keep me relevant is my different type of topics. see if I talk about what's everyone else talks about It would be boring & not a mega hit. That's why my moniker is eyeamyourhost39. let me break down my moniker.

Eye- means my 3rd eye which is my mind.

Am - me!

Your Host- means I'm like M2's talk show host. I talk about array of topics from my usual politics to Dating to scenario story telling.

LOL - man, you crack me up!

Here, some possible topics:

>Building Self-Esteem in a world of oppression
>Recognizing the good in today's troubled youth
>The Proper way to fold a fitted sheet
>The Role of media as a surrogate parent
>The Dangers of political discord
>Embracing Stark Reality

Just a few...

Hi EyeAm

The way you describe it, it seems harmless. I guess I would want to know why it's so important to you to have this woman be your "best man/girl" when I imagine that I am that. I would also want to know if her "stand up guy" was going to be there with her, if not, Why?

I believe it's really difficult to say actually. I feel strongly against it on one hand, and am uncomfortable with the idea. On the other hand, I find myself asking myself why I have a problem with this? Why am I uncomfortable? Am I really old fashion and want things to be traditional? Am I not trusting you? Am I insecure? Or am I just a woman who wants you to only have eyes for me? My answers to my questions are a tiny bit of all of the above! But, Mostly I am a woman who wants you to only have eyes for me. I want to be your "Best girl/lady".

So with that in mind, I stand my ground and say NO!


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Brilliant, bloody good point! And ain't it funny how everyone except you is still brainwashed to automatically accommodate a man, even when he wants a female best man, yet no one thinks of catering the bride who's best friend could just as well be male.
So attacking patriarchal formats... are we? It looked that way, but your point makes clear it's still patriarchal as bleep...

I am now wondering how many men would be okay about his bride having her best friend -another man- among her brides maids on their wedding day. In a tux, looking good.

I don't see why not.
It's your wedding you can do what ever you want.

If anyone has a problem with it. They can deal with it.

Tom4UHere,

No thanks i do my own thing......see natural leaders dont need a forum planner. I do whatever i want. This is my cyber mansion. Thanks anyway

Picesmoon2,

Well the importance would be maybe i would want to change the face of tradition. I want to so out there i think it would be a good look for us. I believe that a woman can do the same things as us men except war. I believe war is no place for a woman. Getting back to the subject in hand. See another thing is i like to out do anybody or anything to be creativity different. I give you example i can see me having a sky dive wedding. Bungie jumping, & NASCAR racing things like that.

AnnieRooRoo,

Hello welcome back, well some failed to realize is this was just an ideal i wanted to throw out there.

EyeAm,

I understand now more what you are getting at and your reasoning for wanting to do this. I too am a person with open mindedness and when it boils down to things, I am not a conformist. I like to do things differently as well, and if it leads others to desire change, then that's cool, but my motivation for living outside the box is not necessarily to be an example to others. Lately though, it would appear that for some reason I have put myself back in a box...guess it's time to climb back out.

So from that perspective, and having a better understanding of the purpose for this experiment...I might be more open to it. At least more open to discussing it further. Being a romantic at heart though, I'm still not convinced I would want to conduct such an experiment when it comes to our special day.

There are certain things that I would still want to be "all about us", not let's show the world how it can be different. Although doing it for the "sake of being different" would be "all about us" when you think more in depth about it. Wow, you got my mind spinning, lol.

Maybe for the honeymoon, go do something non-traditional or an out of the box type experiment...which would be more interesting to me and fun.

Thanks EyeAm, this is an interesting topic. I like looking at things from all perspectives, it gives me a clearer understanding of how others think and where I truly stand with things.

Pisces is one of my best friends on here, but not for long I don't get my cake and coffee