I was a single father before I knew it and did the mistake of putting the cot in my bedroom next to the bed.then ocourse son was able to climb out and sleep in the bed.Hes now 8 how can I get him in his own bed thx

get up and put him back in his own room...even if it takes
10 or more times a night...

At 8 years old he should be able to comprehend simple reasoning.
Sit down with him and explain.
It helps if you help him make his room his fortress of solitude.
Allow him some interior design expression.
Take him shopping for 'stuff' for his room.
Let him pick out the linnen colors, lower his closet rod so he can reach it.
Spend time with him at bedtime in his own room.
Tell him a story (make one up)
Read him a book.
Help him establish himself as a person.
Do a sleep over with him in his own room.
Have patience and love and things will be okay.

Does he have his own room? At 8 he should have been sleeping in his own bed for years. Hopefully he has a real bed and not a cot by now or that could be the main reason...who wants to sleep in a cot every night?

Same with my daughter everynight she comes to my bed she just turned 12 2days ago

You should schedule an appointment with a therapist for her. To find out why she does this. Is she scared about something in the house? Anxiety about being abandoned?

Don't know what your situation is but unless there has been a recent upheaval in her life, this does not seem healthy for a 12 year old.

A mother-daughter relationship is not always comfort and emotional.
At 12 years old, your daughter is in puberty and is dealing with homone changes alone. She's probably scared.
She's experiencing things she doesn't know how to deal with.
She needs to have a woman to talk to about personal girl stuff.
Lacking that, she seeks comfort from you because she trusts you and loves you.

I'm not sure of your situation.
Perhaps an aunt or close family woman friend can talk with her.
It will need to be someone she trusts, a woman not a school age friend.
You might ask if she has any friends mothers that she trusts, perhaps she could talk with her?

There are also crisis hotlines that might give her comfort and direction.
Church? Child outreach groups? and yes, professional counselors. However, professional counselors may be the extreme route if her personality is normal.

There are some issues you might be able to help her with as a father but there are some that will have to be handled by a caring woman. Encourage her to talk with you. If you don't know, be honest and tell her you don't know but make an effort to find out. Use the internet, talk to female co-workers and friends. Then, get back to her about it.

When she comes to your room at night, gently take her hand and take her back to her room and sit with her. Pay attention to what she says, even if you are sleepy. Put her at ease so she can get back to sleep.
Its part of being a parent, child care is not a part-time job.

White string lights on the ceiling will turn the bedroom into a child' own private heaven. My cousin was eventually kicked out of his kids room at night after hanging them.