I've been a single mom going on 4 yrs. My sons dad moved out of state far away and I have less than of handful of guys around to show them guy things. What are some good and mentally healthy tips can anyone give me.

Firstly I wouldn’t worry to much.

From my own experience I worked away all my life, for months at a time, my son grew to be a fine young man.

But sports groups are always good, football/ soccer for example, anything to get them mixing with other boys, and sport is healthy for the body and mind.

You could also have a look for adventure groups. They have them here in the UK, kids go walking, climbing, fishing, sailing, that kind of thing.

Good luck

Being a single mom and raising a son & a daughter.. I found the best thing you can do for boys is Sports any kind to keep them busy.. They learn so much from the coaches discipline & goals are very important...

Had my son at times in soccer, baseball, football and then we had horses for 17 years so my son did the Team Penning, Bull Riding & what we call Playdays every weekend we could... It's all about keeping them interested where they learn new things..

Within all of these sports you will find male figures even if it is just for that sport they will learn from them....

These other posters gave great advice. For things like learning to tie a tie or changing oil, my son turned to YouTube.
He turned out well. He was in sports and boy scouts. He had a great group of friends.

A mom can definitely raise her kids to be healthy, respectful gentlemen, even without a father.
Look at the Brazilian soccer team : half of them were raised without a father, by a single mom. They made it just fine.
A mother has powers that she shouldn’t underestimate. A mother is irreplaceable. I’m sure they love you to bits.

Just show them what manners are and how they should treat a lady when taking her out on a date. Show them that they should stand up for elderly people on a train or a bus. Show them what gratitude is when they receive something.
Make them work hard for their goals and don’t hand them everything on a plate.

They will be fine.

Hugs,
Elissa

The very fact that this is a concern for you shows you are a great mom and while it may be desirable for them to have strong male role models in their lives you will be their number one influence.

Elissa eloquently made very good points so no need for me to repeat them but it sounds to me that your heart and head are already in the right place.

I see no need to add to all the great advice you've already been given

it should go without saying but if you date a man, don't bring home around your kids until you are sure he will be a good influence on your kids and you think there is long term potential with him.

I knew a lady ( no I didn’t date her) that brought home every Tom dick and harry she dated. Wasn’t good for the kids..

Otherwise what they have said up above.

I am agree

All good advice.
<~~~~~ Single dad with 7 kids total. 6 boys and 1 girl. I have custody of all but one of my children (We all live together). I'm in the process of divorcing my wife so will not post a picture until divorce is final for obvious reasons.

A couple questions which is going to alter my advice. How old are your boys?

I was raised by a single mother up until 12 when she turned into an alcoholic. I pretty much learned everything
I needed to know except about relationships. I learned that the hard way before I became red pill. But the age of your kids will help me give you some solid advice.

I'm assuming you have young men. Let them play football, be in boy scouts, etc. Sports in school may help.

Know that if you date, no man will ever be good enough, but if they're treating you right and you're happy, they'll put up with it.

Just a couple tips from my childhood.

Military school.

Builds character, and gets them out from under
foot.

I'm a dad with all girls so I'm just the opposite, but they do need guy stuff so I would suggest taking them to a good non-denomination church and they usually have stuff going on to build up boys.

My step dad was a carpenter and taught me a lot of good skills like how to work with wood and build things. He also taught me how to take care of the car from checking oil to pumping tires to troubleshooting codes. But he has passed away and I had no one to teach these 'man skills' to my son. So I decided to do it myself. There were things I could do and I showed him how, like painting and drywall. There were other things that I couldn't do so we watched youtube videos and tried to figure things out, like how to change the light bulb on a car.
We built a shed together, wired it and installed power boxes. We planted a garden and took care of plants. We planted trees and made wood boxes for flowers.
One day my son told me that he chose a construction class at school and I was really happy about it. They learned about shop safety, how to use tools, how to cut wood etc. They made some wood boxes and other small projects. Now, he's taking his second class and he's having fun doing it. I'm trying to include him in everything I do and he's becoming my helper. And hopefully, he'll gain something while doing it. I read a lot of books about these things too, it's my natural interest lol.
I see some dads having their sons around in the shop teaching them all kinds of things and passing their knowledge down to them. I don't have that. But I can still give him some basics and help him feel good about his skills. :)