I've lived in both regions on the eastern side of the Mississippi River.
I grew up in NW Pennsylvania and have lived and worked in NY, VA, & OH.
I've also lived later in MO & MS.
I tried to move back to PA and found the attitudes incompatible with my preferences.

I find the people in the NE Colonial states as 'stuffy'. I refer to those as 'police states'. Not only do I find Southerners friendlier, they seem to be 'more alive'.
The NE states also seem to be stagnated. There isn't as many construction projects happening (by comparison), things stay the same longer and people seem to want it that way. In the South, something is always being built, there are a lot of new things happening at any given time. There are more festivals and public events year round.

I think this has to do with the fact that in the NE the winter season prevents activities. They have only 3 or 4 months of the year to finish off projects, have festivities, be sociable in open public venues. Much of the winter months are spent indoors.

In the South, the weather allows for more activities year round. People can easily go out and about and socialize. Construction projects happen year round. With more people socializing in public it opens more people to being sociable and friendly to others.

People stuck in their houses (inside) the majority of the year, year after year, causes them to be less open to new ideals. They get set in their isolation. They tend to trust within and are very opinionated.

People that are openly sociable the majority of the year, year after year, causes them to value others. They learn to trust outsiders and a more open to people's uniqueness. They are more 'approachable because they are friendlier.

Having lived for duration in both regions, I prefer the South because I feel 'more alive'. I tried going back to the North, I found it unbearable.

Huge differences between North and South of USA, why?

I mean, take bathroom bills for example. Bathroom bills were only a discussion topic in the Southern states like North and South Carolina, Missouri, Massachussets. But not in Northern states like New-York for example?

How come that there is such a huge discrepancy between the North and the South regarding way of life, way of thinking,... ?

Does the fact that there is such a huge discrepancy between North and South, influence people in their decisions about where they want to live?

Also, is it unheard of for someone to be democrat but befriend someone who is republican, in the USA?

Is the North of the US safer to live in for LGBT people than the South of the US?

Can someone be a conservative living in the South and still support gay people, lesbian people and trans people or are those two mutually exclusive?

I'm from the south. I had a man who tried to kidnap my daughter from a Wal-Mart. I see the danger of letting males in the women's bathrooms.
We have plenty of gays here. I can tell you we are a lot friendlier in the south.

I grew up just south of Boston. My perspectives include the following:

We were close to all sorts of cultural variety so we knew members of all sorts of backgrounds without discriminating...with creative people, comes a straying from the norms. Its inevitable. Openly LGBTQ supportive. So we learn not to care as much.


....large populations make it too difficult to keep it all strait or to even ask before befriending them, what religious affiliation, or economic status, or connections to european, african, hispanic, asian brotherhoods they have in their heritage. So we learn not to care as much.

Seriously, sometimes you cant tell if they are mixed race.

Even with all that, ....prejudice comes about. The KKK my have a stronghold/or more history in the South, but there was great resistance in the North to 'bussing'. ...or civil rights in general.

None of us are clean.


that is a rather famous photograph I remember from my childhood.

Culture, economy, anthropology, history, geography...all sorts of reasons.

Are you looking for one single thing you can point to?


That could be entirely due to media coverage.
I mean for all I know you only read things like washington times, wall street journal, and new york times, and news channels that are recorded in new york and los angeles.

There "could" be a bias of more "liberal" media ideologies wanting to paint the "south" in a certain light, so they focus on stories that promote that narrative.

Where maybe there were "bathroom bills" in many "northern" states, but the "media" only really focused on those in certain "southern" states that have certain connotations associated with those states, to promote a separate narrative.

Also...when did Massachusetts become a "southern state?"
It's east of New York...


Culture, economy, anthropology, history, geography...all sorts of reasons.
Might as well ask "how come that there is such a huge discrepancy between North China and Southern Russia regarding way of life, way of thinking,.... ?" or between Ireland and England and Scottland and France.

Each state is more like an individual country with a lot of legal and cultural reciprocity for the sake of economic collusion.
The U.S. wasn't founded by one small english colony that simply expanded.
There are all sorts of different cultures, families, races, creeds, etc. from many different countries, coming for all sorts of reasons, that set up territories, colonies, homesteads, towns, etc.


I don't know. Maybe.
Could be why most people are moving west, to get away from the northeast and south.
I think humidity, winter, and taxes influences the decision more.


No, but I think it would kinda depend on their level of belief or zealotry.


I think it depends on more detail.
I mean it's going to be less safe to move to Detroit or Chicago, more in the north, than any southern city, no matter what you are.

I think it's going to be more safe for a conservative, private, LGBT person to move anywhere, than a flamboyantly, in your face, make waves to change the local culture and status quo right now LGBT person.

I think it's more safe for LGBT to live in a larger city, especially where there are known LGBT communities, than in small rural towns with small populations, and they're the only LGBT in 100 miles.


Sure.


Just depends on a lot of things.
People aren't polarized solely by conservative/liberal with mandatory anti-whatever behavioral dictates enforced by the local militia.
There are different degrees and tolerances and beliefs in there.

I agree with this. From my experience, men tend to be more threatened by their sexual identity being questioned and anyone who puts that in question is up for their punishment. Enter the trans woman.
Since I am not a man I cant tell you what theyre thinking of course, just what it seems, to me, to be.
If I were trans, I would absolutely be more frightened in a room full of strange men. ...or even one in a mens room. jmo

Well, being from the North is all goes back to the civil war. We won and the South still doesn't like that. And we like to rub it in sometimes. We shouldn't ..of course, but being A holes.. we can't resist it.... sorry.

Our culture reinforces this. A man seems to be constantly challenged or told he must prove his 'manhood'....whereas a woman...i dont think there is even such a word as 'womanhood'. we are not at all taught to prove ourselves. Only that we are more valuable if we are pretty.

How come that people in the North of the USA think so differently from people in the South of the USA?
It really seems like two different worlds.

The South seems to hang onto traditional values, is more conservative,... while the North seems to look at things from a global point of view, rather than from a religious point of view.

I mean, take bathroom bills for example. Bathroom bills were only a discussion topic in the Southern states like North and South Carolina, Missouri, Massachussets. But not in Northern states like New-York for example?

How come that there is such a huge discrepancy between the North and the South regarding way of life, way of thinking,... ?

Also religion, why is the North of the USA less vocal about religious preferences, religious values, religious morals,..?

Does the fact that there is such a huge discrepancy between North and South, influence people in their decisions about where they want to live?

Also, is it unheard of for someone to be democrat but befriend someone who is republican, in the USA?

Is the North of the US safer to live in for LGBT people than the South of the US?

Can someone be a conservative living in the South and still support gay people, lesbian people and trans people or are those two mutually exclusive?

Would love to hear some explanations regarding these questions as it is difficult to understand for someone who is not American.
Please be respectful and don’t attack others when explaining. I would like to understand the reasons why, no condemning or things like that, rather looking for as much objectivity as possible.

Thanks.
Elissa

This is not a reflection on the south in whole.. at all

but

I have been to the south many times, and many times as soon as I say a few words some don't like me.. why.. because the northern accent. They don't know the first thing about me.. but they don't like what they hear.

Not all of them.. at all... but it does happen

The closer they are to Canada, the better