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Topic: Picky Eater or just an *******?

LonnieBrighton777

Thu 09/20/18 10:50 PM

Today was the day I remembered why I stopped cooking for my husband for a year.
I went shopping for quality ingredients, forgetting my situation. I made something simple: Salibury steak with fine chopped veggies and fresh herbs and grated harvarti cheese with red wine dash. I made brussel sprouts in rosemary fresh, sprinkled with parm cheese and stirfry rice. I take pride in my cooking and have been a chef for 10 years. I know my cooking doesnt suck, because not only have I won my fair share of culinary competitions, most people I know trip over themselves to get to my food and are legit pissed if they were not on time to get anything.
I stopped cooking for him, because he's insufferable when it comes to food. He also legit doesnt get how I feel, because Im not making specialized dishes and most of the food he loves is processed crap. Ill always ask him what he wants to eat, and he almost always replies with the vague answer of "food." Thanks, thats so helpful. So dont get pissed at me when you are served something from your ever growing list of "icky" foods you hate. He also hates it when I cook for other guy or girl friends.he also has the gall to complain if my food looks "better" than his food. I garnished his delivery pizza slice with a basil leaf, saying I didnt know what else to do for him. and he said I had an "attitude."

The things up to date of which he currently despises:

Any ethnic food that isnt faux Mexican or tso cchicken and rice from the chinese food place.
Wine in and outside of food
Tomatoes
Onions
Mushrooms
Cheese
Eggs
Any fresh herbs
Chocolate
Cake
Cheesecake
Peas
Homemade cookies
Homemade brownies
Salads that arent saddled with meat and ranch.
Brussel Sprouts
Spinach
Kale
Avacado
Fresh herbs
Grapes
Spices outside of salt, pepper garlic and cumin.
Lamb
Almost any nut
Wine, nut or herb sauces
Lobster
Crab
Shrimp
Scallops
Clams
Oyster
Most fish
Anything with the word "diet" on it.
Water

The only things I know for a fact that he just looooves are as follows:

Dijorno heat at home pizza burnt so that no cheese is seen.
Papa Johns large double pepperoni light very light cheese with the large breadsticks.
That damn $5 Taco Bell Box.
Burritos
Tacos
Blue box macaroni.
Chicken ramen
Subways Spicy Italian drenched in vinegar, all of the spicy veggies and southwest sauce and black olives.
Dr. Pepper
Milk
Pepperoni
Energy drinks, Venom and Monster being particular favorites
Chicken
Steak
Bacon
Biscuits
Brown Gravy from the package
The coffee with heavy cream and sugar he requests 3-4 times daily. He likes caffine so he can stay up later for hos video games.

And thats about it. You feed him anything else and he pouts, calling it not "food-food." He'll just insinuate that he has to "shut up and eat the food of the wife who is always right and begrudgingly eat it, or just thank me for "trying to make him something." And dont even get me started on when I tried introducing some vegan alternatives. He looked like I told him I was leaving the country.
It's so annoying dealing with this. Am I the only one who thinks this is odd, or am I the crazy one?

Edited by LonnieBrighton777 on Thu 09/20/18 10:57 PM

Argo

Thu 09/20/18 11:33 PM

fix him up a hot steamin' plate of *Alpo Enchiladas*

and don't forget to crisp up that cheese on top... laugh

Easttowest72

Fri 09/21/18 01:19 AM

I've been married twice. Hb1 would barely eat anything. Hb2 would eat everything. It's difficult dealing with picky eaters but I wouldn't want to be forced to eat something. I made beef and vegetable soup last weekend. My daughter's friend ate 3 bowls. My daughter picked through her bowl and left half. Oh well. She knows where the fridge and stove is and can make whatever she likes.
I suggest you cook for yourself and let him burn frozen pizzas.

Scoobert

Fri 09/21/18 05:31 AM

I'd just say he's a dumba$$ and obviously has no taste.
That sucks that he has no appreciation for something that is a labor of love.

Being picky is one thing, being an a$$hole is a whole different thing. slaphead

TxsGal3333

Fri 09/21/18 05:44 AM

Lmao he would never make it in my house for the list of stuff that you listed he does not like.. Well that is my go to list well except the diet stuff I'm sorry I don't buy the lite or diet stuff I want full flavor... Just about every thing I fix has onions in it..

This morning it was a Mexican Omelet (cheese,onion & jalp inside,with salsa and cheese on top), then bacon and crispy crown hash browns and coffee..

Sure glad I have never run into that the way I see it they better like what I cook, or they can get in the kitchen and cook themselves..and if I don't like what they cook I will cook my own..

notbeold

Fri 09/21/18 06:42 AM

Yes he is an ********?
I hope he is good for other things !
Get some empty TV dinner trays and trick him with good food with burnt cheese on top.

Dump him and marry me. flowerforyou

I'll eat everything on your list except brussel sprouts - yuk ! sick

Kale ~ ~ .
I also don't like cauliflower, even with cheese sauce. ill

and I try to avoid garlic and onion.

But then having a chef partner could result in obesity.
And disliking my dodgy food: too many herbs and spices, and sauces; too old or moldy or way out of date; over cooked; incompatible mixes; too vinegary or salty; and culinary mistakes that I eat anyway because I hate throwing out food. laugh

soufiehere

Fri 09/21/18 07:06 AM

A little weird for me as everyone loves my cooking
but I would have to say STOP! All he is doing is
pissing you off with the bad attitude and lack
of taste. You are liable to poison him at any moment.

On purpose.
Save yourself!!!

(What happened during the year you did not cook
for him BTW???) Nobody died?

Tom4Uhere

Fri 09/21/18 10:31 AM

The first thing I noticed was you said "husband" not 'X husband'.
This leads me to believe that you might be on a dating site to get some help with a marital problem and not actually looking for anyone.

First I must advise you that a dating site is not a marriage councilor.
Many of us are here because our marriages already failed in some way.

I also suggest you see a real marriage councilor because they have education on how to deal with marital problems that arise.

In my opinion, from the information you have given...

Ask yourself why you married him in the first place?
Figure out if he still has the traits that attracted you to begin with.
Then, you have a choice to try to work thru this difficulty or call it quits.

From what you wrote, it seems there is more to this than being a picky eater. Not only have you described personality issues in your husband, you have demonstrated personality issues in yourself.

Marriages don't fail because of one partner. It takes both of you to make or break a marriage.

If you value the commitment and dedication of marriage, the first thing I would recommend is for the both of you to start honestly communicating with each other.
It seems to me, you're both very angry about something?
You won't be able to get past that anger if you are not communicating honestly with each other.

Try to remember that both of you chose the other over everyone else to share life together. You have an intimacy with him that is unique to the two of you.
If there is anyone you should be able to be completely honest with, it is your spouse.

I think you have a lot of honest soul searching to do.
Try to remember that at one time, you loved everything about him and he loved everything about you and that love for each other was a personal shared experience.

If you find that the love is gone, get a divorce and come back, I'm sure there are plenty of men that would love eating your food for you.

Toodygirl5

Fri 09/21/18 01:36 PM

That's ridiculously picky. He needs to buy the food he likes and do his own cooking.

Men have been cooking for themselves, since the 1990's.

:smile:

Edited by Toodygirl5 on Fri 09/21/18 01:38 PM

Scoobert

Sat 09/22/18 07:59 AM

Microwaves....allowing men to fix food for themselves since the microwave was invented!

:thumbsup:

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 04:47 PM

I'll have to try that sometime. Though burning the cheese is like a sin to me.

XD

Edited by LonnieBrighton777 on Sat 09/22/18 04:47 PM

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 04:50 PM

Yes, picky eaters drive me up the wall. frustrated

It's just a shame someone I love and am close to has to be in the Picky Eater camp.

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 04:55 PM

He did reveal that he was raised on microwave food and chili mac because some of his family members couldn't cook. Tragic. However, you'd think palates would mature with age. Like I've seen Freaky Eaters shows where people eat one thing prepared exactly the same way for decades. sad

Edited by LonnieBrighton777 on Sat 09/22/18 04:57 PM

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 05:13 PM

That Mexican omelette sounds wonderful. :heart:

I am the same when it comes to onion and other things like garlic and the other allium veggies. :>
I do make my own food for the most part, but then he'll be all in the other room with the "sad puppy" look. huh

catinidaho

Sat 09/22/18 05:14 PM

It's odd. I'd say, give your husband a tv dinner and cook the good stuff for yourself and friends.

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 05:19 PM

Lol, it's not like that. It's just that I've met more decent and like minded and even talented people who I become friends with in real life on meet up site vs those sites like Facebook, Twitter, etc. My husbands also pretty aware of my online activities, as we dont have secrets. I know it's weird, me on a date site, but that's just how it is. I was glad I found a culinary section on the site, and the day I wrote this was the day I had to start from square one with his picky eaterisms. Oh, and it wasnt some dire, full fledged fight or anything. Sometimes I'm curious about how other people deal with picky eaters. My favorite suggestion was making meals with burnt cheese.

Edited by LonnieBrighton777 on Sat 09/22/18 05:24 PM

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 05:26 PM

Lol, I'm not going to poison him. Although the year I didnt cook for him, he did sample and pick at the things on my plate that he wanted or had takeout.

LonnieBrighton777

Sat 09/22/18 05:45 PM

Hahahaha, the burnt cheese again. XD
I do hate throwing out food, and I barely cook with salt unless I am making a brine for something. But if the food is too salty, I just try rinsing it or adding more of something not too flavorful.

I guess I am one of the few people who loves the brussel sprouts. Cooked in a salted Kerrygolds butter, fresh rosemary with a sprinkle of Goya seasoning and pepper (omit the minched garlic) is the best thing ever to me. I've even gotten people to eat them cooked in bacon fat and with thick cut bacon strips :p

Tom4Uhere

Sat 09/22/18 11:57 PM

Try asking him what he wants to eat.
Have him describe his perfect meal.

Do you entertain in your home much?
Perhaps a few dinner parties where the guests love your food will cause him to have a different perspective on the food you do cook if he sees many different people loving it.

I like Brussels sprouts fried in butter and sea salt.

On my own, I have studied cooking.
I posted many food, cooking and kitchen supplies on Pinterest.
While looking for pictures to pin, I read the webpages.
I have bought a lot of kitchen gadgets and supplies after pinning pictures.
I love to cook and I am always told I make really good food but I am not a chef and I don't really do exotics.
I make regular dishes but I make them like a gourmet dish.

Here is my pinterest page
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