Ellison has never joked about having done what he was accused of. I dont know where any of these 'medical records' are, but I have not seen them and dont believe they exist.
The relationship matters because it is a different dynamic than a predator.
Any man who hits a woman is a predator, relationship or not, party affiliation or not!
You have been in an abusive relationship I do believe, did it make it better because you were dating the man? I would assume not (and I am not condoning what happened to you either, I would gladly beat the hell out of that guy for you).