I have had a couple guys add me as "favorite"..
I asked them why they did that instead of just messaging me...
They claimed they can't message women first because they aren't a paid member.

I think that's horse crap...and suspect they were scammers sanyway..

Is it true the only way guys can message women is to be paid members?
I didn't think that was the case.

Well, if they are going to play Jr High (Middle School) games, not act like an adult..they can just sod off....

that is not true messaging is free. the only ladies first rule in messaging is she must send the first pic or image

????????????

"send the first pic or image"??

Umm...what's wrong with the picture someone has on their profile?

If your mail settings are for certain ages, traits, distance they can't message you.

I delete nudges, about every view and about every message due to sc4mmers

Me too..
While I *appreciate* the "Nudge" feature...if someone is really interested in chatting with me, grow a pair and send a real message.

The two individuals in question were within my age range.
That's why I suspect they were full of crap.

nothing wrong with profile pics. but sending pics in messaging must be started by her

where?

I see no place to message back a photo.

First off, why would anyone want to send pictures in messages?
Presumedly, if things are going well after a bit, you'd exchange e-mails addresses....and if someone wants to send pictures, that would be a better place to do it..

Second, Like GalaxyStarz..I guess I've missed that feature...heck, I can't even post pics in the Forums...

you add them in just like here in the forums with bbcodes

Well..I have no idea wha bbcodes are..

A link, or brief how-to would be helpful...since you seem to know about it..

Thank you for explaining. I have a faceless local saying he couldn't send me one until I did first..
I thought maybe he was making it up so he didn't have to send a photo.

I just sent one with the bbcode for images and it didn't work.

oops i thought it was with the bbcodes, which are explained in the 1st topic in help.
but i know the will send and appear as a pic.

I can't message you, but I had a post to tell you how to post a pic in a post.

I lost my post somewhere between copy and paste



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did not know that was device sensitive soufie thanks

Not sure why the difference, might have come out that
way with the APP? I will go see if I can find where
someone explained it in Help (I do not use a phone.)

Could not pull it up so we wait for someone who uses
the APP for a blow-by-blow list of steps to send pics
through text.

So, first you have to be on the APP, then the other has
to be on the APP then the female has to send a pic before
the same feller is allowed to.

If I remember correctly, the female member that sent me a picture of her family was using the App. It was last year and we lost touch so I can't ask her.

I get a lot of guys that add me as a "favorite", but looking for someone that they like better.