And lots of people without realizing it, are so fundamentally certain that sex and love are confirmations of each other, that if sex falls off, it means that love is dead.
If a person in such a situation decides to reach out to others in an effort to get the version of love they expected, from someone else, that will mean they've decided to put SOMEONE ELSE in charge of their own life and of their own beliefs.
THIS.
Because someone has stopped having sex with you *doesn't* mean they don't love you...the two are separate for *most* people..
Otherwise..why do so many poeople engage in quickies/ one night stands/ casual sex with no real connection to the other person?
I've heard it all:
"Sex is a physical expression of a loving feeling.."
(see above)
"If she loved me she'd have sex with me.."
Dude...if that is your attitude you have other issues...
"Sex is the only way I can feel close to my partner..."
Well, then I suggest counseling...
There are many, many reasons why someone of *either* gender may not feel like having sex with their partner...
TALKING TO your partner is the best place to start..
It may be something simple...work pressure....overwhelming duties around the home....illness...depression....
Maybe the partner has made "digs" at the other person about their looks...THAT is a libido/ mood killer for sure.
People are complicated, and anyone who doesn't thubnk so is sadly mistaken...
Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
on Fri 11/09/18 11:53 AM