"Age doesn't matter" Oh Really?

She says he is too young and age doesn't matter.

what would be left? Sex? Personally I would rather have sex with someone I can relate to in all the above categories and a lot more

Riddle me this" How is it the love just seems to be tossed around like it's something we have and we can get quite easily when in fact true love and he comes but once and if lucky twice a lifetime so why do some people treated like an object and not cherish it like their own life depends on it which it kind of does.. I mean there are less and less marriages lasting a days and more and more domestic violence seems to be happening when all we have to do have a little tolerance show a little love respect I watch the way we talk to each other because as soon as we start calling each other names we begin to resent each other and that's where it all starts! So look up from you phone buy something nice or even make something go for a walk down the street grab some flowers off someone's tree tell your partner they look good in something or you like there the new project he's working on the shed small compliments go a long way to building a huge relationship they can't be wavered or faulted :)

Again it would depend on the age difference. I am already retired and am 66 yrs old. Am I supposed to wait another 20-30 yrs for some young guy to retire? Really, how long should I keep working?

I think waiting for someone closer to my own age would work out a lot better. Besides when he is just ready to retire I should be wearing Diapers and pushing a walker. Makes me wonder just how long he would be willing to stay with me

No. Not really. Except to those that chose to make it matter because they've decided it matters to them, their image, their identity, the way they see the world.
But it doesn't really matter.
At least to the type of relationship the people that believe "age doesn't matter" really want.

At best they've deluded themselves into believing they want a successful (long term, healthy) relationship because it helps them come across as being truthful.
If you're going to tell people what you think they want to hear, it's best to come across as really meaning it.

Of course:

Sometimes people just don't want to hear "no" and simply switch tactics.
Just like any "good" salesman.
"You're too young" is a much "softer" no than not answering their message, or saying "I'm not attracted to you, don't email me again."

When a beggar walks up to you and asks for a dollar do you say "sorry, I can't afford a dollar" or do you say "no, don't bother me?"
If the former, is it truly unrealistic/unexpected the beggar would come up with a reason for you to give them a quarter?


That's great. Good for you. Thanks for sharing.
Now...what if you can't find what you'd "rather" have?
Not to mention, are you under the impression these guys messaging you saying "age doesn't matter" aren't messaging anyone else?
Are you under the impression they're just sitting, pining away, year after year until your profile comes up, and they say "finally!" Or that they're conservative guys living according to how you think men should conservatively live but your profile comes up and they throw it away and think "I must have her and throw my values away and just pursue her! Maybe for just sex!"

Or do you think they're emailing other women? Other women who also said "Personally I would rather have sex with someone I can relate to yadda yadda yadda," only they said that last year, or 3,6,10+ years ago (look at some of the join dates of the female posters) but haven't found their "rather" in that time?


What exactly are you figuring out or saying with the OP? That (many/most/all) men are full of crap when approaching women?

Are you trying to convince yourself of your own ideology, and you're lonely so you decided to share on a public forum? Do you honestly believe this hasn't been discussed before?
In the time it took you to fill out the OP, how many other women do you think those guys have contacted?

Are you under the impression forming a pseudo rational and logical argument about why age matters is going to affect men, that contacted you saying age doesn't matter, in any way?

are you single mom

I've gone 11 years older.
I've gone 3 years younger.

I too prefer close to my age..within 5-10 years is fine...and at this stage *10* is pushing it...

It's always humorous to me that these young guys not *only* lie about their age on their profiles (so their profiles show up when older women do a search)...but what the woman wants and prefers seems to not matter to them...

"This is what *I* want...if it isn't what you want..then you are closed-minded/ have walls/ need to be less rigid...." blah blah..

Telling me what YOU think I should want is *not* the way to get me interested in you.

Also, sonny....we women are *quite* capable of looking for the profiles of younger men...if that was what we were interested in..we don't need you lying about your age just so we "see" you..