That is the major problem here. As long as we are using our opinion we are not using the Scriptures.
I can understand a devote religious person needing religion to establish how they personally believe.
If that gives you contentment, it shouldn't be a problem.
However, I don't really see how it is a problem when someone does not value scripture as scripture is intended.
Some people base their beliefs on what they are told and others base their beliefs on what they have experienced.
The 'problem' nearly always stems from others not adhering to the the 'beliefs' of others.
In this way, the "Vanilla Syndrome" has an impact on how we all lead our lives.
The issue is not the scripture.
Its not even the interpretation of the scriptures.
It has to do with what is acceptable within the 'society' of those that use scripture to dictate their reasons for doing the things they do.
If your beliefs dictate to you a need to be 'vanilla' then by all means, live withing those beliefs.
If those vanilla beliefs do not dictate your behavior, by all means, find actions that fall within your belief structure.
Personally, I don't care how you conduct yourself as long as it doesn't adversely effect the way I conduct myself.
The thing about sin is how you live with it, not how I live with it.
Personally, I think the act of expressing love for another takes precedence over anything written by someone that doesn't know me.
If that expression of love is vanilla so be it.
If that expression of love is giving her an orgasm while bent over the coffee table, so be it.
The important thing to do is to choose wisely when accepting your special someone.
If they need 'vanilla' and you don't,
You Chose Poorly.