It's a trend these days to state in capitals that man AND woman have to take care of such things.
But in the arena of sex it still IS woman who does most of the pleasing and gets pleased less.
A woman is as much a sexual being as a man, just in a different way, she needs different things in order to feel desired, sensual, cherished, and in the mood and wanting to be with her man.
Much goes wrong there, as when a couple is in a relationship for some time usually routine sets in. Woman begins to feel less desired and cherished, man begins to feel less respected. Yet, he still expects her to spread her legs for him. It doesn't work that way for a woman. We don't want to be our partner's prostitute -which is what it's still like for many I think: pleasing the man so he won't stray by allowing sex, even when she doesn't feel like it. At some point she doesn't want it at all anymore, and she likely won't get lubricated anymore either. Then she gets shunned, but if she was treated differently it wouldn't have come that far. If she'd be with a man who would appreciate her and treat her right she likely WOULD get wet again even.
But it's still common practice to blame woman, and to even shun her if it doesn't work anymore, blame her for him not getting hard anymore and so on.
On top of that, we have to accept that "It is both man AND woman who have to satisfy the other!"
F*(k That!!
It's about time this chit changes.
Statements like, "Both man AND woman who have to satisfy the other!" STILL hold blame.
(NOT meant to attack the person who happened to say this in this thread btw, just using it as an example.)
When listening to and talking with women you hear the same general thing: it's mostly about the man, he doesn't know how to please her, he doesn't make an effort to please her.
And to be totally blunt, even in this day and age most men cannot find a woman's clitoris!!
You only have to Google Image to find out. And most watch a lot of porn, yet they still do not know??? Nor do they know what to do with it if they CAN find it.
And not to put sole responsibility on men, but I do feel they can put in more effort. At least know how to find a clitoris and what to do with it, and above all: realize that just like not every man likes his thing to be treated like the same way, this goes for woman too. So what worked for your ex might NOT work for your new lady. ASK!!! Pay attention. Feel and notice reactions!
Usually it's only men way in their 50s who've learnt this.
All in all I think it a huge gap in our education. Yes, we get sex-education at school. But that's only the most basic technical stuff.
We are not taught how to go about the rest. The working up, the wooing, the seduction, the FINESSE mostly.
So if we didn't get educated you have to be responsible and get educated yourself.
Internet is full up with tutorials on kissing, oral sex and so on. It has never been easier to get educated, to learn proper technique and so on than it is now.
It's up to everyone to either do this or not.
And yes, I do feel it is mostly for men to get more educated and to take more responsibility for their relationship's sex-life. We women have pleased for thousands of years, we kind of know the drill.
During these same thousands of years, men didn't have to worry about a woman's pleasure at all. It was her duty to spread her legs, a man's duty and right to spread them by force if he wanted to get his rocks off. Whether she wanted and liked it or not.
So you are the ones who lag behind a few thousands of years. And that's not blame, but reality. Facts of life and our history.
Then now be curious to learn, take responsibility for your relationship, and stop blaming women. That's wearing very thin, we've had that for thousands of years already.
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