She's AFRAID of YOU.
WHY? YOU didn't do anything wrong?
I think the first thing to remember is the fact that she is her own person and nobody (like you) sees reality like her.
Expectations are hard to drop.
We all have expectations we assign to every soul we meet.
Its our nature.
However, if you can remove ALL your expectations concerning another it frees you. It frees them.
Seeing someone as they present themselves has many merits.
It allows you to understand the person you are dealing with from their terms.
It allows you to make decisions based on understanding instead of what you expected.
Allowing another to 'be' themselves allows them to embrace themselves in reality.
Its actually pretty easy to do (I am doing it with my current GF).
Sometimes you get an unexpected result.
Its those results that cause you to form a bond with them or reject them.
It also allows you to determine if they are actually who they portray or if that person is not who they really are.
A brain-game.
Many "Failed" relationships are 'rooted' in a fail of expectations.
Someone did not 'prove' to be who you thought they were.
Was this a fault of them or a fault in your expectations of who YOU thought they should be?
I accept my GF as she is.
She accepts me as I am.
We both experience times where what we expect from them is not the reality of them.
Its a normal (tho flawed) human condition.
It is our own responsibility to accept or reject another.
If you can look at another and dismiss your expectations you gain a new consideration (wisdom) that allows you to make "Wise Choices".
Edited by
Tom4Uhere
on Sun 08/18/19 01:08 AM
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