Topic: Challenge dating with kids
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treblaamezcua

Mon 02/25/19 07:03 AM

I've notice that women my age have much older kids and aren't willing to date someone with younger children. It's a real challenge.
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Totage

Mon 02/25/19 07:48 AM

Seems like every woman my age has young kids, but none of them want to date a single dad. Kinda hypocritical. They expect men to be understanding, but they're not as understanding.
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Jasmine

Sat 06/08/19 02:17 AM

I have just joined. I know you posted this ages ago. I am a single parent with a 6 year old. I am 49. Totally agree with you, very hypocritical. I would definitely date a guy with kids. Good luck in your search.
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Sun 06/09/19 05:58 AM

There's nothing hypocritical about it. There's having adult kids and having young kids. A world of difference.
My kids are adults, have left the nest when I was 46 and NO FREAKING way would I date a man with younger kids.
When your kids have left the home you get your life back, and that's something you need too. Both you and your kids are ready for this, letting go and both getting their own lives. It's a natural process that occurs to all living creatures on the planet: giving birth to offspring, protecting and raising them, letting go of them, knowing and trusting you have given them all you can give and teach and that they can make it on their own now.

Dating a man with younger children means you have to go back in your own natural process from having let go, having done your 'work' concerning raising offspring, to raising (someone else's) offspring, and accommodating that.
It's not natural, goes against the grain.

Apart from that you and that man are NOT in the same phase of life, as they're still in the phase of 'raising and protecting and teaching' while you have done with that.
It means being tied to home again, not being able to spend time alone with a partner, having children around, again. Too much to ask.
Really narrow-minded and not very understanding of natural processes to say it's hypocritical.
You are in the same phase as you too have young children. Discuss this when they've left the home. Then you will maybe understand.

It's also that I have had my children at the normal age, in my 20s. If a man partied and/or was focused on his career until 40 and then decided to have offspring, I'm not going to pay the price for that by sacrificing the freedom you have once your kids have left the nest.
It means we're too different, not compatible.

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delightfulillusion

Sun 06/09/19 06:26 AM


There's nothing hypocritical about it. There's having adult kids and having young kids. A world of difference.
My kids are adults, have left the nest when I was 46 and NO FREAKING way would I date a man with younger kids.
When your kids have left the home you get your life back, and that's something you need too. Both you and your kids are ready for this, letting go and both getting their own lives. It's a natural process that occurs to all living creatures on the planet: giving birth to offspring, protecting and raising them, letting go of them, knowing and trusting you have given them all you can give and teach and that they can make it on their own now.

Dating a man with younger children means you have to go back in your own natural process from having let go, having done your 'work' concerning raising offspring, to raising (someone else's) offspring, and accommodating that.
It's not natural, goes against the grain.

Apart from that you and that man are NOT in the same phase of life, as they're still in the phase of 'raising and protecting and teaching' while you have done with that.
It means being tied to home again, not being able to spend time alone with a partner, having children around, again. Too much to ask.
Really narrow-minded and not very understanding of natural processes to say it's hypocritical.
You are in the same phase as you too have young children. Discuss this when they've left the home. Then you will maybe understand.

It's also that I have had my children at the normal age, in my 20s. If a man partied and/or was focused on his career until 40 and then decided to have offspring, I'm not going to pay the price for that by sacrificing the freedom you have once your kids have left the nest.
It means we're too different, not compatible.


I agree with everything you said Crystal. Couldn't have said it better myself flowerforyou
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delightfulillusion

Sun 06/09/19 06:42 AM

I dated a guy 12 yrs my junior and finished with him because he had teenage children. He was tied to school hours and we couldn't see each other during school holidays. My daughter left home and got married when I was in my mid 40s and I had grandchildren when we dated.

Nope, won't be dating younger guys with responsibilities again.
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Tue 06/11/19 03:14 PM



There's nothing hypocritical about it. There's having adult kids and having young kids. A world of difference.
My kids are adults, have left the nest when I was 46 and NO FREAKING way would I date a man with younger kids.
When your kids have left the home you get your life back, and that's something you need too. Both you and your kids are ready for this, letting go and both getting their own lives. It's a natural process that occurs to all living creatures on the planet: giving birth to offspring, protecting and raising them, letting go of them, knowing and trusting you have given them all you can give and teach and that they can make it on their own now.

Dating a man with younger children means you have to go back in your own natural process from having let go, having done your 'work' concerning raising offspring, to raising (someone else's) offspring, and accommodating that.
It's not natural, goes against the grain.

Apart from that you and that man are NOT in the same phase of life, as they're still in the phase of 'raising and protecting and teaching' while you have done with that.
It means being tied to home again, not being able to spend time alone with a partner, having children around, again. Too much to ask.
Really narrow-minded and not very understanding of natural processes to say it's hypocritical.
You are in the same phase as you too have young children. Discuss this when they've left the home. Then you will maybe understand.

It's also that I have had my children at the normal age, in my 20s. If a man partied and/or was focused on his career until 40 and then decided to have offspring, I'm not going to pay the price for that by sacrificing the freedom you have once your kids have left the nest.
It means we're too different, not compatible.


I agree with everything you said Crystal. Couldn't have said it better myself flowerforyou

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