There is a significant difference between being needy and being interested. Coming across as looking for someone, anyone, is much different than letting someone know you are interested in them. In today's environment, many decent men are going to need some level of encouragement to make an initial move toward you.
I agree...
I am 57, and can only remember a handful of guys who ever approached *me*..
And, this goes back to when I was younger and ~all that and a bag of chips~ (as they used to say)...not older and chunky and not much to look at anymore...LOL
I usually had to start off the conversation.
In all 3 of my long terms, that what I had to do..
So, SparklingCrystal...we are supposed to just sit there, hands in our laps, waitning for some guy to get the nerve to approach us/ message us?
"There are plenty of great guys out there, but a woman won't attract those when they're going after the guy themselves. Again, if a guy really wants to meet you he'll suggest it or ask you. He will take action."
"If he's really interested he will ask you. It may be 2019, men in general do not like to be chased, they want to chase themselves."
They sure as heck don't come up to me when i am dressed nice and look nice at the numerous festuvals, music things, and cultural things I have attended.
I'm sure you'll say something about what i am "putting out"....which is baloney...
When you are in a pleasant state of mind and enjoying some activity where there are *other* people who are into the same thing...that would seem like the best time/ way to meet someone.
But yet...*I* seem to come alone and leave alone and no one talks to me unless *I* am proactive..
Except the older lady who takes the mpney at the door at one of the places I used to go to...I'd end up sitting out there with her, just to have someone to converse with...
I do NOT need nor want advice, thank you.
Just saying that because something works in *your* world, in *your* expereince, that doesn't mean it applies to ALL people.
To claim it *does* implies you have the knowledge of an ascended master or something, which, last i checked....there are very, very few of.....
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I_love_bluegrass
on Mon 05/27/19 07:05 PM