anyone any views on getting wound up easyly

I don't get wound up.

The good or bad kind?

giving out so quess bad way ?

You don't have to give in to what keeps you madder and madder if anything I've learned... it's not compassion that makes a person feel better it's warmth... when someone tells you they've been through what you've been through you feel better about yourself that you're not the only one... someone saying they care about you and you still will not? But when someone opens their heart upon you and tells you I've been there I know what it's like to truly stop believing this world cares about me... you know you're not alone in the world... instead of everyone telling you to grow up acting childish themselves...

Find people of common interests... whatever your passion is and explore the world with them... you don't have to meet face to face you just have to engage in this world and being out in public is ideal but it isn't all that... people are living life and are doing cause no matter what you're doing in life. You can read horoscopes or visit seers your life is going to happen anyway regardless of what people tell you... I was told this by a man of science who said a seer told him his exact life's story since he was 20 and it played out word for word.. regardless of how he felt at the moment...

By wound up if you mean 'getting angry' then I tried to figure out what 'winds me up'

Type 1: Idiots. All sorts of people, generally younger, different culture and sometimes like kids they say whatever comes to mind. Example, inappropriate joke, cuss words, becoming late and such but we get along. In fact, I have also been an idiot at times, so easier to forgive and move on.

Type 2: The 'smart' people. To them, life, or a conversation, is all about 'winning' or 'losing'. When they are losing, they push buttons that distracts from the topic.

For example, a remark about your credibility or questioning your intentions. This makes anyone go livid; esp. on a public platform. Then they sit back and watch you defend yourself. It's some game of superiority.

Obviously, one should avoid becoming a 'victim'; but bear in mind, 'smart' can also be 'good' on different platform, or occasion. Curiously, in my observation; these people like cats and dogs.

Type 3: Relationships (and i'm not talking about jealousy). This could be due to taking partner for granted, misunderstanding or wrong counselling from third party. Fairly dangerous, because this may haunt for life.

and then there is Type 4 ..., since you asked.

Type 4: Trigger happiness: This happens when one is say lonely (mentally depressed), weak physical or distressed financial health.

under these situations a person easily loses his mind and then ..., regrets it.
The problem is the pattern repeats until the root cause moves away. Sometimes the pattern becomes the person.

You really need to sit down and think about what it is that is getting you like that and don't say everything cause its not everything that gets you mad. Before you reply and say everything does think of the last time a cup got you mad or a bed got you mad I always remember that cause when I was having a real bad time I said to this guy how everything was getting me mad and be asked when was the last time a cup got you mad i was thinking he was taking the piss but no think about what is making you feel this way and look for ways to sort them sometimes just avoiding them can be the best way but look to deal with things in a way that identifies the problem and looks for ways to deal with that problem.

The Jean Genie, lives on his back

Seems like there's an ancient grievance buried within. When an opportune instance occurs, it all springs back.


ha,ha,ha

I used to get all wound up before work.
I would crank my steering wheel all the way to the right and drive around in circles for awhile.
Then I would crank the steering wheel all the way to the left and drive circles in the opposite direction for awhile.
When my co-workers asked why I did that, I told them I was winding up but I went to far and had to wind down a lil.

Mad is a condition where someone cannot let anger subside.
They carry the anger longer than it is meant to be there.
They construct mind scenarios that reinforce that anger so they can stay mad.

All emotions are designed to be spontaneous and each peaks and subsides.
We tend to hold on to some emotions and that is where mad comes from.
Who actually WANTS to be mad all the time?
To anticipate anger and focus on it causes someone to lose the inner peace and contentment a healthy mind needs.
Essentially, we cause our own condition.

Personally, its an ego thing to expect anger.
Its an example of someone's inability to let reality be reality.
Just like the understanding that we feed our own depression we also feed our own anger.
I suggest letting go of the things in life you can't control and try to accept others as they are.

Great write Tom.
this thread is a few days old but set me thinking.



What is Ego? Big topic & I know Freud's entire work revolves with Ego as the center piece but without going to depths, what is it in common parlance?

Will power?
Our Arrogant Self?

And then it comes to mind that it is a foisted on identity from childhood. If age is a number why don't we say a name is just a code like 'a rose is a rose call it by any other name'.

but it appears to be not. A name is a symbol; Juliet carries within her the first script that she will fall in love with a Julian. A name presages what we become. This aspect has not been studied and remains hypothetical; moreover i diverge.

my point is: Ego is a relative mental state. it is situational. One goes to church and 'surrenders'. the same guy puts on a uniform and others surrender to his orders.

So if anger is a 'color' of ego or springs from identity ego
one needs to examine relationships; how important the other person is to us and so on.
--xx--

A sermon by one who failed to practice it. ha, ha

Ego is how we think of ourselves.
Its that simple.
Its that idea of who we think we should be that determines what has impact on how we think of ourselves.
When someone or something threatens our expectations of who we think we are, we retaliate because it is important to us.
What happens when we figure out that who we think we are is not who we actually are?
It may not even be a planned deception.
We are filled with delusions all our lives.
We take others word on how things are supposed to be and govern our own lives based on someone else's ideas.
The delusions are multilayered.
One layer reinforces the other and we get lost in them and lose our own unique identity.

If you are totally honest with yourself and strip back the delusions that are so cherished you can actually find the real you in there.
This is because nobody lives behind your eyes but you.
Everyone exists in a Universe according to themselves and its other peoples influences that cause us to lose focus.

Your ego is your identity according to you.
Not according to your mom, your wife, your friends or your co-workers.
When you substitute your identity for the delusions of someone else you get stress and lose control of your ego.
Anger & depression is you trying to find yourself in a world of delusions of your own permission.

The fix is simple and easy.
Take back your power and get control of your life.
Figure out who you actually are, how you actually feel and who YOU want to be. Afterall, its YOUR life.

(Ennis (Irish for 'island') is in the county town of County Clare, Ireland).

correct

nice quote

Just shut up

Whenever someone finds they are "wound up easily," the cause is usually continuous stress in their lives. Often made worse by the use of stimulants.

For example, I am currently "wound up easily," because a third family member is dying a very long death, and the country is teetering on oblivion due to horrifyingly bad leadership on every side.

Because stress like this is so exhausting, I end up drinking too much caffeine in order to stay awake enough to work.

That in turn, results in my having a very short temper, when inanimate objects fail to behave, and I end up making things worse by "punishing" my inanimate objects.