Right so I have been chatting with a guy and base on our conversations he seems to be nice and genuine but when I ask him if he has a number so we can chat on WhatsApp he said that he doesn’t as he wants to keep things simple?
Isn’t that suppose to be a red flag??? I mean base on what he says he does for a living it’s unbelievable that he doesn’t have a phone and instead he gave me his email address....lol...

Not everybody uses Whatsapp for starters. And yeah, it is a red flag. Messaging here is entirely free. And there is so many cases, that the likes of Whatsapp were used by scammers, that it is understandable how this chap reacted.

Have to agree with Lars, so many on here asking for whatsapp and hangout, ya just gotta weed dem out..

Hi thanks for the thoughts I didn’t actually consider that:-) now I understand... I guess I just need to rely on instinct, so what I actually did, I also told him I don’t have an email address as I want to keep things simple too:-)

My goodness I’m pretty sure that’s what he’s thinking lol I wasn’t aware of that🤣

lol.. The first thing that comes to mind, but always a red flag..

Good response

Tbh, from what I can see, you just joined. So the best thing is, keep active in the forums, have a wee chat by messages, they are free on this site here. But giving out personal details is always delicate, especially if you just starting to chat with someone.

Thanks yet again:-) and yes I just joined and to be honest it’s my first time to join such online stuffs I just reckon to try something new as it’s not actually rocket science to meet people lol you meet them everywhere during travels or at the coffee shop and even at work etc I really appreciate the advice

Lol It’s awful to have someone think of you like that but I guess you have to when it comes to online activities

Yeah it's a virtual madhouse..lol I'm sure you'll figure it out though..

I'd see it as a red flag as:
A) he likes to keep things simple??? What does he mean by that? Have you asked him? Women usually never ask further and accept vague or even weird comments without question.
But keeping it simple to my mind means: He doesn't want anything other than casually chat. So if your interest is different...

B) Men usually don't mind going on an App, off this site. They're usually the first ones to mention it. Him not wanting that, yes, I find that weird. What is he afraid of?
One thing I can think of he's scared of: you contacting -or phoning him even- when he's with his missus... Wouldn't be the first.
I feel that's the main reason why men are reluctant to do something as simple as chat on an App.

I'd say, take a look at the depth of your conversations with the guy to decide what to do with it. If the conversations are rather superficial, is that what you want? Again, women tend to put up with what a guy is willing to give, which is totally not smart.
If there was more depth, I'd ask him what he means by "keeping it simple".
Lord knows he's got a missus and is having chats with women on the side. What time is he online? Always late, or briefly etc. Use your brain and common sense in combi with your intuition.

Everybody is connected these days. you'd think connecting would be easier.
But instead there is just more distrust and xenophobia. It's a sad sign of the times.
But keeping it simple? I'm with Crystal on that one.
Makes you wander. if he is worried about someone finding out.

Although it could just as easily be as the guys said. he may be wary of scammers. Because that's what they do every time. Get you offsite and start gathering personal information.

It's such a pain that there are so many wishing to take advantage of ones personal quest for love.

But what can you do? Listen to your head. quizz him..

I think the guys are right. If someone says let's chat whatsup or anywhere else I'm like nahh pass. Lots of scammers and some people won't do it.

I would not use the phrase "keep it simple," but under no circumstances would I bother to install whatsapp.

One gal I met in person from this site never even told me her name. I think she was being overly paranoid, but I have no doubt that some cretins were out to get her.

Hi! Due to the large amount of scammers on these dating sites and apps, I only give out my email after a few interactions on Mingle which is free. I can understand his hesitation. You have to be careful with your info these days. Vet the person thoroughly before you move on to chatting off this site.

Hi inev, welcome to Mingle2
Since you're new to online dating sites, may I just advise you not to go out of the site for your own protection. It is usually a red flag when someone wants to chat outside the site right away. Don't give out any personal information such as email or phone number as there are a lot of bad people out there.

The guy must thought you were moving too fast. I think what he meant by keeping it simple is staying within the site and not giving out any personal info until you get to know each other better.... or he was just not into you... or worst, that you were up to no good lol

my two cents

Out of six years experiences, I would identify that "person" as a scammer organization. It is so typical for them to allow only email. It gives them time to provide the next email text. I found out, those messages were written by different writers!
Congratulations, for your inner alarm system works beautifully! God bless!

That makes more sense! !!!!

My thoughts as well!

Yeah I already figured out it’s bonkers 🤣