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Unknow

Sun 07/21/19 09:10 AM



Ok, I am an older person, I find that when I text/email I use the old 'letter' writing etiquette - I open with a salutation, even just "Hi" then say what I am texting/emailing about - then end with a closing. So how many here find themselves still using 'old school' letter writing techniques in a time of "lol" "TTYL" and all the shorthand, most of which I am not familiar with?

And is it a bad thing to use some old school 'politeness'? Or am I a dinosaur? Do we all have to buy into QUICK in every text and email? (mostly texting)


I fully admit to being a dinosaur!
I know exactly what you mean and it's frustrating and sometimes takes me a while to figure out what some are even saying in extreme cases. In my case as a man it's usually the younger the more they won't or don't know how to even form complete sentences. Sadly it seems many are borderline illiterates or just too lazy! Also I think as time passes more and more most social graces fall by the wayside.
My best advice is to be proud of who you are, your experiences and embrace your inner dinosaur.
After all what's the alternative? Dumb yourself down to their level? Not me!


So true! Even with older folks , sometimes I will write a person maybe commenting on their profile ( never anything rude I try to say something uplifting ) and wtf? No answer not even a " thank you" if you read my profile I'm not interested in a relationship, so they don't need to be afraid I'll show up at their doorstep makes me think sometimes WOW! I can see why you can't find someone......but you right on on your observation...
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Sun 07/21/19 09:14 AM


I hate texting!!! What a waste of time compared to talking. I do enjoy Email, write in complete sentences and use paragraphs. It also depends on the type of device you are using. Smart phones are not very good at writing anything and I can usually tell when someone has written something on them. I much prefer my computer with a full keyboard where I can use both hands.

Me too. Due to my neck injury it's impossible for me to work of my mobile. I sorted the problem by installing WhatsApp on the PC, Instagram as well. You need a little trick to be able to post on Instagram via PC, but it's easy and fast.
I also bought a USB C Hub when I had to use my phone more often for Instagram and hadn't learnt about that trick yet.
That allows you to plug in your keyboard into the phone, and a number of other USB devices.

Texting I don't do. No one uses text (SMS) anymore.
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I_love_bluegrass

Sun 07/21/19 11:04 AM




Ok, I am an older person, I find that when I text/email I use the old 'letter' writing etiquette - I open with a salutation, even just "Hi" then say what I am texting/emailing about - then end with a closing. So how many here find themselves still using 'old school' letter writing techniques in a time of "lol" "TTYL" and all the shorthand, most of which I am not familiar with?

And is it a bad thing to use some old school 'politeness'? Or am I a dinosaur? Do we all have to buy into QUICK in every text and email? (mostly texting)


I fully admit to being a dinosaur!
I know exactly what you mean and it's frustrating and sometimes takes me a while to figure out what some are even saying in extreme cases. In my case as a man it's usually the younger the more they won't or don't know how to even form complete sentences. Sadly it seems many are borderline illiterates or just too lazy! Also I think as time passes more and more most social graces fall by the wayside.
My best advice is to be proud of who you are, your experiences and embrace your inner dinosaur.
After all what's the alternative? Dumb yourself down to their level? Not me!


So true! Even with older folks , sometimes I will write a person maybe commenting on their profile ( never anything rude I try to say something uplifting ) and wtf? No answer not even a " thank you" if you read my profile I'm not interested in a relationship, so they don't need to be afraid I'll show up at their doorstep makes me think sometimes WOW! I can see why you can't find someone......but you right on on your observation...


ibaceltic1...

I am SO DA*M tired of people saying "no reply is a reply"..
That's bulls**t.

If someone came up to you at an event or party and tried to start a conversation...would you just walk away without replying?
Just sit there and ignore them?
No?

Then what makes people think it is OK to do that online?
(dating sites)

It costs me nothing but a fw seconds of my time to write them (if i am not intetrested) and politely say that.
I feel that is the courteous and decent thing to do..
But then..I am older, and was raised with manners...winking

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Larsi666 😽

Sun 07/21/19 11:41 AM



I hate texting!!! What a waste of time compared to talking. I do enjoy Email, write in complete sentences and use paragraphs. It also depends on the type of device you are using. Smart phones are not very good at writing anything and I can usually tell when someone has written something on them. I much prefer my computer with a full keyboard where I can use both hands.

Me too. Due to my neck injury it's impossible for me to work of my mobile. I sorted the problem by installing WhatsApp on the PC, Instagram as well. You need a little trick to be able to post on Instagram via PC, but it's easy and fast.
I also bought a USB C Hub when I had to use my phone more often for Instagram and hadn't learnt about that trick yet.
That allows you to plug in your keyboard into the phone, and a number of other USB devices.

Texting I don't do. No one uses text (SMS) anymore.



I send lots of SMS though. Many of them from my tablet, because my mobile phone provider offers free texts ... whenever the app works :wink: Well, I don't really like phone calls ohwell
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Unknow

Sun 07/21/19 03:09 PM

Thank you I Love Bluegrass, my sentiments exactly, seems like even older people don't have manners anymore , I was raised to say please, thank you and I instilled that to my children to use manners . I don't comment to someone's profile that often but hey when I do I make it short and like I say I compliment them on their nice profile ( which is a another subject). It just takes a few seconds to shoot a thanks or even a ty since they are already on this site Thank you for the kind words, BTW I enjoy your posts, most the time you hit the head of the nail right on.....
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seamac

Mon 07/22/19 05:32 PM




I hate texting!!! What a waste of time compared to talking. I do enjoy Email, write in complete sentences and use paragraphs. It also depends on the type of device you are using. Smart phones are not very good at writing anything and I can usually tell when someone has written something on them. I much prefer my computer with a full keyboard where I can use both hands.

Me too. Due to my neck injury it's impossible for me to work of my mobile. I sorted the problem by installing WhatsApp on the PC, Instagram as well. You need a little trick to be able to post on Instagram via PC, but it's easy and fast.
I also bought a USB C Hub when I had to use my phone more often for Instagram and hadn't learnt about that trick yet.
That allows you to plug in your keyboard into the phone, and a number of other USB devices.

Texting I don't do. No one uses text (SMS) anymore.


to my point, sort of, what does SMS mean? And how long would it take to tyoe it out?

I suppose most of us know 'lol' 'ttyl' and 'mil' or 'fil' but with those, I am tapped out.


I send lots of SMS though. Many of them from my tablet, because my mobile phone provider offers free texts ... whenever the app works :wink: Well, I don't really like phone calls ohwell
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eric22t

Fri 07/26/19 03:26 PM

sms Short Message Service
the original format for texting from your cel phone
mms or multimedia messaging service
is the new and improved version.
sms was text only and limited to 165 characters per message.
hence the development of short hand
mms allows video text and picture to be sent as a text message.

and for crystals next question at least in the states it is still used very heavily because it is unlimited (and doesn't affect data usage either) on almost every cel phone plan and it's totally private.
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seamac

Sat 07/27/19 03:41 PM


sms Short Message Service
the original format for texting from your cel phone
mms or multimedia messaging service
is the new and improved version.
sms was text only and limited to 165 characters per message.
hence the development of short hand
mms allows video text and picture to be sent as a text message.

and for crystals next question at least in the states it is still used very heavily because it is unlimited (and doesn't affect data usage either) on almost every cel phone plan and it's totally private.


Thanks for explaining these shortcuts. I am not sure I had ever seen sms before, never mind mms

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anemail

Sat 07/27/19 05:42 PM



I am SO DA*M tired of people saying "no reply is a reply"..
That's bulls**t.

If someone came up to you at an event or party and tried to start a conversation...would you just walk away without replying?
Just sit there and ignore them?
No?

Then what makes people think it is OK to do that online?
(dating sites)

It costs me nothing but a fw seconds of my time to write them (if i am not intetrested) and politely say that.
I feel that is the courteous and decent thing to do..
But then..I am older, and was raised with manners...winking




I agree that "no reply is a reply" is bovine excrement. Often communication channels are unreliable.

If a beggar approached me on the street, most likely I would ignore him/her. That is particularly true if I am with someone else.

To the point of why anyone would think "ghosting" online is appropriate, consider attempting to use this site when one was seeking someone 20-30 years one's junior. The provided filters are completely inadequate to the task, and the ones between the ears must be employed. Information comes fast on the Internet and it may well be for some the best strategy is to 'ignore the noise.'

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Letsgiveitatry

Thu 08/08/19 06:41 PM

I adapt to the person I'm texting with