I find some men are quick to show their love after talking for a few days WHY is that
Isn’t love a responsibility and consistency the real rest is TIME

It has been my experience that anyone who starts talking 'love' that early is usually a scammer.

After a few days, I agree, probably a scammer.

It’s not all that difficult though to feel in love with the idea of a person, who you
think that person is, after you spend significant time talking with them online,
on the phone. It starts out with a hmmmm, I kinda like this person, then moves
into the butterflies, never felt like this before, high school crush, consumes every
thought, need to be with, can’t live without, when are you coming, i love you so
much.

My experience has been that actual togetherness is the only way
to know a person best. All the online rest is just anticipation of the
unknown that we have somehow dubbed ‘in love’.

Some are fakes. One told me his WhatsApp I seldom talk to him now I don’t think he’s a scammer he’s not a strong Christian at least

Hi Grace

I thi nk psychologically some desire to be in love so much they confuse fantasy with reality ..

Others may have an agenda ., to gain something other than love

Some are under the influence of hormonal surges that impair their ability to think clearly (mostly men lol)

Some genuinely do have the ability to fall in love quickly .. whether that love lasts or for how long , is another matter .

Thanks I agree when the actual being together can tell what and who he is

Hi sis I’m thinking of it now lol 🧚‍♀️thank you

Not a clue.

I'd presume, some people get little or no
attention in their lives.
So, the moment anyone is nice to them,
they think it's love.

I get alot of this crap from women, usually
after the second or third email.
I don't get the luxury of days, before some
crackhead goes all 'play misty for me'

lol I see they say wife thing maybe I don’t understand men I’m just observing

me grandmother and grandfather , was one of those fall in love at the first meet
they married with in the first week
stayed married till they died some 70 years latter, still married

what is good for the goose isn't all ways good for the gander

i have all so seen people live in the same house boy friend / girl friend for 20 years , get married and then divorce a few months later

people sure are funny critters : )

Thank you I read those kind of stories how lucky and blessed they are searching is a time and energy consuming process

Yes I saw many couples living in a room without love like indifferent roommates how sad that is my parents are one of them

Most perceptive but often forgotten.

I've found that most women embrace their feelings rather quickly.
I am often told they love me on first meet and while I know it might not be what I consider love, inside, they really do think they love me.

I can't speak for other men, only me.
For me, I have reserved feelings considering love.
Call it wisdom or fear, it needs to be just right before I'll say it because what I say has importance, especially when proclaiming my love for someone.

From a man's point of view, which is the only view I can possess, I realize that many women wear their emotions on their sleeve.
They react to thosde feelings as it feels natural to them.
At that time, I don't doubt they feel love.

For me, love is more than a fleeting emotional feeling.
It sets into my foundation.
When I feel it, I feel nothing else for her.
It is complete.

Knowing that I am weird when compared to others, I can completely understand why someone might proclaim love without substantial backing.
People NEED love in their lives to feel complete.
People are 'programmed' for immediate gratifications nowadays.

But, as is often found with immediate gratification, it wanes in a very short time.
That 'love' turns out to be not what is expected because there wasn't enough time and 'time on target' to actually confirm those feelings.
This oftan leads to terrible consequences due to hurt feelings and bad decisions.

9 months with my current GF, still haven't proclaimed "Love" yet.
Still not quite sure.
She has told me she loves me since we first met.
She knows I will say it when I feel it.
She knows love is there, in the things I say and do but till I actually come out and say it, she is okay with waiting. This is because like me, she's weird and can accept me, faults and all for who and what I actually am.

So, saying "I Love You" before meeting you doesn't make him a liar, just makes him HUMAN.

Humans vary from individual to individual

Exactly!

So think about expectations.
Expectations are what we impose on another to make them be more of the one we want them to be, instead of allowing them to be who they are.

If they suddenly need your help with a cash flow problem you will have your answer.

I don't believe it's wise to establish any more than friendship online, to think you can go beyond that is setting yourself up for a fall in my opinion. It isn't until you meet in person and both decide you want to date that you can start to believe it could be something more.

You’re right keep calm and watch love is a verb not only about beautiful words

You need to be able to say love at the same time, then everyone will be happy.

When you say too much are you tired of that with no good results at all

I've found that part of the reason for why many people do and say things like that they love you, far too early, is a sort of accidental result of how people came to deal with the world from moment to moment, from the time they were small children.

It's all a fairly simple matter of learning first, that you want something; then, that if you say and do the right things, you can maybe get it.

Men and women both learn from each other, in any social interaction. In the case of dating, I noticed that people will often use words more as a magic incantation, than a form of communication.

Basically, they learn in the dating world, that saying "I really like or love you," is much the same as Ali Baba saying "open sesame" in front of the great cave of treasures.

Where things really get difficult, is that in many cases, people who learn that saying "I love you," is the magic spell that gains them cooperation with their target, actually come to believe that that's what real love actually is. So they SAY "I love you," and then do whatever is fun for the short term, and when they start to lose interest, they use the "spell breaking" magic phrase "I've fallen out of love with you." And then tell their friends that they just had another bad experience with "love," when actually, all they did was play with a toy for a little while.

I don’t doubt they mean it when they say I love you at THAT moment after some time it’s another story people are NOT rational all the time I read today love is trembling happiness some need it more than others I guess