To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person...
I agree completely and what you say remains the central idea of this thread. But you know it is easy to advise a person who is ‘fallen’ – and he feels it’s more insult to injury; and so the reliance on philosophies. I think sharing my personal experiences got us sidelined a bit – but ok.
You see, this Country is drenched with ancient Sanskrit verses - a language few people read and even those who do - they end up with skewed meanings or not any meaningful abstraction
As far as ‘Thou art That’ is concerned in Sanskrit it implies an ‘all pervading consciousness’ – call it God if one so desires.
Normally, ‘rejection’ sort of appears as damning but we don’t feel so intensely when it is computer generated. Why not when it is human script generated – and to respond to this why not as you initially suggested return to baseline – a state of ‘stillness’.
From this point I begin to realize that even before she rejected I was playing out an inner script that was driving me towards rejection. In her shoes - I would have rejected me!
So now I’m ready to identify what script is that – and I find it is showing off ‘how great I am'
The impact on her can be either – she will feel my ‘mental muscles’ and get delighted or – she may feel 'diminished' or even threatened – depending on the context.
So it’s no use pretending it is a script. After the comments I began to dig further. It’s an ego driven by some monkey in me as Dark Owl pointed out in a different manner. Whatever I do, at the critical moment, my monkey jumps in and takes charge – which was fine when we were all teens.
So if now I identify with nature, consciousness or something larger in life the monkey allows me to listen to what actually people are saying. Had I been aware of this earlier, 'I would have actively listened to her' (my monkey would have made friends with her monkey - I don't know)
In other words, this identification with a larger maybe philosophical identity allows me to drop out those scripts of dominance or submission – which are quite useless in love.
Thanks Spartan. But for your recent opinion, I may not have reflected and brought these shared thoughts to conclusion.
Some people have God, I needed a philosophy and it was more by accident that I was reminded of 'Thou are That'. I didn't expect much either. Turned out the great minds in Mingle think alike. ha, ha