I can't seem to control these kids now. I fear they are going wayward

Do you like controlling IMO love them unconditionally and use some strategies

Guess it all depends on what they are doing and how old they are???

Kids nowdays are something.... ️
Sometimes want to ignore but...you cant do that because he/she/ they is/are your treasure.

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Put them in a big sack, hang it from a tree and beat it with a big stick.....

My mom's advice to me when she thought I was going to marry Margaret back in my early 20s was, "You treat children with love and kindness. But first you have to get their attention."

Of cause she told me a story about a farmer having problems with his mule. The salution was to smack the mule between the eyes with a piece of 2by4.

1. Remember that you are the parent.
2. Remain calm in the winds of change.
3. Talk less and listen more.
4. Respect boundaries.
5. They're always watching.
You want your child to be trustworthy, responsible, honest, resilient and good-hearted. Make sure you're modeling those values in your own life. And while you're at it, talk about the walk as you're walking it.
6. Make your expectations clear.
7. Catch your child in the act of doing something right.
8. Be real.
9. Schedule regular unplugged time to enjoy being a family.
10. Lighten up!

Source: http://www.huffpost.com/entry/10-tips-for-improving-parent-teen-relationships_b_6737916

...and remember

1. Raising teenagers is a lot like nailing Jell-O to a tree.

2. Money isn’t everything but it sure keeps the kids in touch.

3. Your life’s "Golden Age" is the period in your life when your kids are to old to require a babysitter and too young to take the car.

4. Shouting at your children to get cooperation is about the same as steering your car using the horn…same results.

4. To be in your children’s memories tomorrow one must be in their life today.

6. The best advice regarding raising your children is to really enjoy them while they are still on your side.

7. A home’s temperature is best maintained by warm hearts, not cold words or hot heads.

8. "The Joy of Motherhood": What a woman experiences after she puts the last tyke to bed.

9. Any child can tell you that the sole purpose of a middle name is so that he or she can tell when they are really in trouble.

10. Your children may outgrow your lap…but NEVER your heart.

11. God gave you two ears and only one mouth, so that you may listen twice as much as you speak.

12. The only true child experts are those that do not yet have any of their own.

13. Cleaning house with the children at home is a lot like snowblowing during a blizzard.

14. There are only two things that your child is absolutely willing to share: Communicable Diseases and their mother’s age.

15. Why is it that we can’t get a child to read the Bible at home, but when in prison they will.

16. Remember this? "When you grow up and have children of your own, I hope that they are JUST LIKE YOU" It worked.

17. How come your Dad never had money for the ice cream man but after a visit with Grandpa your kids "jingle"?

18. Practice what you preach even covers never letting them see you snag those Ding Dongs for breakfast.

Source: http://www.appleseeds.org/family_wisdom.htm

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IDK if it's a real quote but in the movie about him, Tookie said raising children is like shooting a bow and arrow, you aim for the target, pull back let go, and hope they hit their mark.

You don't control your kids, you pave a path and show them the way. When they stray, you let them know you're there to help guide them back on the right track.

There's a book called "The Difficult Child"

By Stanley Turecki

That helped me cope with a child that had OFF THE HOOK Asbergers. kid was nuts, but this book made it considerably easier.

It's $4 at thrift books online.

Good luck.

Not sure if it's a real quote but in a movie about his life Stanley Williams explains that raising children is like shooting a bow. You point the arrow at the target, pullb back and let go, but the arrow can go straight and hit the target, it can stray the the right or left and miss the target, it chooses its path. Something along those lines.

You don't control your children. You create a path for them, teach them. You let them know that you're there to guide them on the best path, but if they stray you're there to help guide them back to the right path.

Send them to military school.

Stay calm & assertive!

I stand by my earlier post above, I've got the tree and the stick bring your kids and your own bag and whack away.